Why Shame makes you poor and Self Love makes you rich?

In this newsletter I have explained to you THE most profound concept I have learnt about money, business and life in general that has made it so FREAKING effortless for me to get what I want and the root of all of it was- Instilling a deep amount of self love and letting go of any shame in my body.

I will explain this concept to you through 2 lenses

1)?Energetic

2)?Biological

Shame and Self Love are on the 2 opposite ends.

Shame is a social conditioning where you are rejected, ridiculed and debarred because you are not who others want you to be.

Remember: Shame is not your own Emotion. It’s a BORROWED emotion. It is something you borrow from those around you. So shame in reality is never yours-it is someone else’s.

For example, lets consider the below situation:

Situation: You cannot quit your toxic job even when its ruining your life because you are afraid of running out of money. You have savings. You can also live below your means for a few months but this strange fear is very very strong in your body. Even when you want to- you simply cannot bring yourself to put down your papers because you are afraid somehow your money will run out.

When we go deep we might find: Your fear of running out of money could be your father’s fear who thinks if they don’t have a certain amount of money, they wont have a certain standard of living in society and they will be then shunned or ridiculed (and will ultimately feel shame) and since you trusted your father (and also because he was an authority fear growing up) you internalized this shame.

So even though there is nothing inherently bad about quitting your job or making less money, in fact you also have savings- you will spend your entire life running behind money because to you Less/No Money equals Shame because that is what you were told REPEATEDLY. You internalized your father’s shame of not having money.

And since you havent worked with a coach to release this shame from your body and learn to think and feel differently- you will be stuck in this loop even when you want to get out of it because your old thinking patterns are THAT strong.

On the opposite end, when you have no shame in your body and you love and accept yourself unconditionally- you become free from any of these thoughts.

Now- this isn’t a natural state. You have to train your brain to think a certain way, to release the shame, guilt and regret you are housing in your body and make space for love.

So how does self love make you rich then, and shame makes you poor?

Biologically speaking, when you experience shame- your nervous system contracts. Your ability to think critically, creatively and logically goes down because your body goes into a flight/fight mode.

When you experience shame, you would notice- you feel small. Your breathing becomes faster, your hands and feet might feel weak. You feel frozen.

You PHYSICALLY do not have the space to receive anything. If you put a million dollars in front of a person who has shame around money- he will reject it because he is SIMPLY NOT READY TO RECEIVE and then he will go on to blame that there aren’t enough opportunities.

People who have shame in their body regarding anything- cannot see opportunity. They cannot see money LYING on the table because they feel so constricted. They don’t feel worthy even if you tell them that they are.

Energetically speaking- you become closed off. A person who has lets say shame around being unemployed will keep doing a toxic job that pays peanuts instead of taking 3 months, skilling up, investing in his personal growth and switch to a higher package.

A person with shame in his body creates poverty because he simply doesn’t feel big enough in his nervous system. To receive big opportunities and big money, you have to first feel big in your body, in your nervous system. A person with shame will keep feeling small and create this vicious cycle of lack of money in his life.

And this is how Shame keeps you poor. It doesn’t let you see opportunities for growth. It makes you a hoarder of money. It makes you believe that if you save every single penny- you will stop feeling insecure one day but the reality is- only and only investing in improving your brain to recognize the right opportunity will make you money.

On the other hand, Self Love is expansive. It opens up your nervous system to everything out there because when you love yourself deeply- you invest in yourself without a second thought and you keep improving your brain. And since you improve your brain- you recognize opportunities faster and you make money effortlessly.

Biologically speaking, self-love on a daily basis keeps you relaxed and your nervous system in a safety mode. You walk a certain way, talk a certain way and show up a certain way because you feel SO safe being yourself. Self Confidence comes naturally to you because you do not feel the need to prove yourself to anyone.

And this confidence, patience and safety is what attracts everyone to you. Because lets be honest: everyone likes a confident person over an anxious person.

We want to work with someone who is self assured, not someone who needs validation. Everyone wants to hire someone who is confident in himself/herself.

Energetically speaking, a person who is deeply in love in with themselves put themselves out there. They do not worry about what their friends/colleagues/parents/partner or anyone thinks. They go for opportunities that they like without doubting themselves. They invest in themselves to learn the skills they need to learn. They invest in their personal growth fearlessly because they trust themselves.

People who love themselves look at money as a medium of exchange rather than a source of their self confidence.

You cannot be Confident if you do not love yourself. Period.

Now remember here: Letting go of shame, guilt and regret from your body is a process and it is something you have to practice. Only when you make space in your nervous system by letting go of all this social conditioning will you be able to truly invite Abundance. And this abundance will come from Self Love.

This is exactly why I curated a powerful 2-Day Workshop on “Mastering Unapologetic Self Love” happening on 8th and 9th July.

I will be teaching you a step-by-step process on how to let of your shame and invite complete Self Acceptance and Self Love in your life to expand your nervous system.

We will cover 10 different topics and you will learn how to release shame and guilt from your body to truly fall in love with yourself.

This powerful Workshop is for those who are willing to recognize opportunity. Who are willing to process their pain rather run from it. Who are willing to let abundance in.

We have limited seats, so register fast :)

Register here

Love,

Riyanshi