Why sex before Marriage?

DO YOU HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE?

or

HAVE SEX WITHOUT MARRIAGE?

or

HAVE SEX FOR PLEASURE?

“Is it good and/or permissible to have sex before marriage or otherwise as stated above?

Absolutely not!

WHY?

Here are some seven (7) reasons – (Even though there are other reasons).

(a). The lady has broken her virginity;

(b). The boy now has the right to decide whether to dump her or go ahead with the marriage;

(c). It is fornication and the Bible has a lot to say about fornication                          1 Corinthians 5:1;

(d).Your spiritual union with someone who has not been blessed in the Church for you alone – I Corinthians 6:16 (15-17);

(e).When even the marriage becomes a reality, the lady will be having negative thoughts as to whether the man may do the same with other ladies as he did with her before marriage – guilty conscience may lead to worry, anxiety or depression);

(f). The guilt of fornication will resonate with you whenever someone mentions ‘FORNICATION’. “The wicked are edgy with guilt, ready to run off even when no one’s after them” Proverbs 28:1a;

(g) Most of the evils mentioned in the New Testament start with fornication – (eg. Colossians 3:5 & Romans 1:29 – Why? The gateway for other sins to enter into the human body is FORNICATION.”

Personally Asked & Answered by:

Elder Sam Obeng Tuudah

Marriage Counsellor

Pentecost International Worship Centre (PIWC- Kokomlemle, Accra) & Church of Pentecost, London, U K.

“Real enjoyable sex life goes with orgasm. Search for it. Your ignorance may slip your marriage downhill.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 88)

“Sex is the prime purpose of marriage and lasting marriage happiness.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 102)

“Sex is created by God to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage. Impatience, fear, misinformation and irresponsibility particularly on the side of the male partner - have compelled female partners to see sex as painful, detestable and not enjoyable act. Seek professional help if you are not enjoying this delicacy of marriage - unless you have some physical medical problems – then see a physician.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 140).

1. Anger. “Anger is a choice.” Tim LaHaye (A good marriage book worth reading);

2. Communication. “Communication is life. No communication is death.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 4);

3. Money. “You cannot serve God and mammon.” Matthew 6.24;

4. Sex. “Sex is the prime purpose of marriage and lasting marriage happiness.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 102);

5. No Time & Attention for Partner: “Sharing your lives together as married partners is a cherished virtue.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 423);

6. Education/Profession. “The highest educated people are the most humble in any advanced society.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 187);

7. “Troublesome In-laws [“Dad or mum”; “brother or sister.” - (eliminate them in your major family decision-making process)]” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 424);

8. Friends. “Show Me Your Friends, I’ll Tell You Who You Are.” Jan Johnston;

9. Respect each other. “Reciprocation of love from fellow human beings is harmonious and lovely for living.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 427);

10. Marry to convert. “Only Jesus Christ can convert a sinner to repentance.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 357);

11. Leadership v Marriage. “Dictators don’t condescend to their marriage partners or spouses." Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 189);

12. Religion (eg. Christian v Moslem, Catholic v Pentecostal, Jew v Non-Jew, Buddhist v Sikh, Pagan v Christian, Goggle-search “World Religions”);

13. Fear (366 “Fear not” in the Bible);

14. Globalisation of marriages;

15. Sickness (Note & remember “Your marriage vows.”);

16. Occult [wife > friends for sex - (Some incognito religious sects and/or occults share their wives with their occult members)];

17. “Age v Sex life [Older partner (lower propensity to perform) v younger partner (higher degree of energy to act)].” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 428);

 18. Culture. “Tribalism and racism are cancerous in every community.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 358);

19. Dialect (My story Akan/Ga –“Speaking a language with your friends or close family ties which the other partner doesn’t understand estranges him/her.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 425);

20. Public Perceptions (Be warned - What people say about you and your partner); “Ridiculing your partner in public or in front of your friends or family is a big humiliation – a pill harder to swallow.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 426);

21. Race (Africans v White race);

22. “Trust is even more important than love.” Jeffery Gitmore;

23. Cooking skills – mum v bride. “You mum has many years of cooking skills than your wife. Don’t compare the two important women of your life” ;

24. Your Partner’s dressing – Either complimentary or condemnation?;

25. Love. Without love, forget it.

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TEN (10) BENEFITS OF SEX

1. Intimacy [(2 = 1) Unifier]: Ecclesiastes 4:11; 1 Corinthians 7 :4-5

“Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;

But how can one be warm alone?” Ecclesiastes 4:11 NKJV (Read 1 Corinthians, 7:4-5);

2. Reproduction - Genesis 1:28; Psalm 127:3;

“Then God blessed them, and God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth." Genesis 1:28 NKJV Bible

“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord.”  “The fruit of the womb is a reward”. Psalm 127:3 NKJV Bible;

3. Improves skin health (Medically tested);

4. Release stress. (Medically tested) 1 Corinthians 7:5

“Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”  NKJV Bible;

5. Sleep well – Sleeping tablets. (Medically tested) Amos 3:3 [Please be careful which Bible you read] – Homosexuals may justify themselves with this scripture reference in the different Bible]. “Do two men walk together unless they have made an appointment.”  The New Inductive Study Bible. – NTSB [May be a wrong interpretation or translation?] “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” NKJV Bible [I prefer this interpretation];

6. Enhances cardiovascular health (Exercise) (Medically tested);

7. Reduces constant headaches/depression (Medically tested);

8. Reduces risk of cancer – Prostate cancer, etc. (Medically tested);

9: Sex boost self-esteem – Married couples find fulfilment in life. Unmarried people sin and disgusted in sequential relationships. Divorcees lack and don’t get often.;

10: “Sex is a neutralising agent for marriage conflicts. Tension is uncommon in all relationships. After sex tension subsides and coolly and calmly dies down.” Sam Obeng Tuudah (Quote 419).