Why quitting is vital for making shifts you Love

Today I'm writing about why change sucks.

And why quitting is literally 'vital' to creating the shifts you Love.

The mind is infinite.

Whether we're aware of it or believe it or not, we all share the one mind.

There's one source, one mind and an infinity of possible expressions and experiences.

When it comes to creating whatever shifts or experiences you desire, here's a way of 'thinking' about the mind you may find helpful.

The mind doesn’t contain 'neighbourhoods' as such but metaphorically, we each dwell in a 'neighbourhood' of the mind.

Our 'results' and circumstances reflect where we habitually dwell.

But they don't determine it.

We are always completely free.

Free to move and to dwell anywhere in the mind we like.

Free to think, conceive, assume and expect anything at any time.

Moving in the mind is our second nature.

Yet, despite our freedom to move - when we overlook our first nature - we have a tendency to stick to the neighbourhood that’s most familiar to us.

And to habitually think and feel down similar paths or streets.

Even when our mental neighbourhood and circumstances are rougher or crappier than we’d prefer...

We don't exercise our freedom to move.

Instead we continue to think from the past, from current circumstances, from what's familiar or from a state of wanting different.

Whether it's to do with our business, income, lifestyle, health, relationships, travel, money or something else...

We tend to stick to our habitual and linear ways of thinking.

Going by what we believe and perceive.

Mistakenly thinking and believing that what we perceive 'out there' is somehow independent of our conceptions of it.

Which is not to say we don’t care or aren’t working to create significantly better or different outcomes.

We may be doing our best to change, improve or transform things.

Busy figuring out. Busy doing stuff.

Working hard to create inner and outer worlds we Love.

And we may be making decent progress too.

But perhaps finding changes take longer, are harder and that the path to them has more swings, roundabouts or potholes than we'd prefer!

We may also live with the fear of non-fulfilment.

?? What if I don’t ever get what I want?

?? Safer not to aim too high?

And, despite all we know, we may remain in the dark as to why creating change is hard.

We may be unaware that desiring new and different and being excited by and accepting what we Love the idea of experiencing is natural.

And we may be unaware that wanting and striving to make our desires happen is unnatural.

Or not know that feelings of lack and resistance and attachment are intelligent signals letting us know we're in our own way.

Going against the flow of our own nature!

And paying the price whether we're aware of this or not.

So, what’s the alternative?

Counterintuitively, or so it may seem, it's to start with quitting.

?? Quit trying to change our thoughts and feelings.

?? Quit trying to change and improve circumstances.

?? Quit wanting to get other people and things to change.

?? Quit with all the self-discipline, self-improvement, striving and massive action BS.

Then it's about Choosing and Moving.

Not simply because this is the simplest, fastest and easiest 'path' to realising what it is we desire to experience.

Or because it's much more fun and enjoyable and healthier too.

BUT BECAUSE IT'S NATURAL.

Desiring and accepting are natural.

Desiring and conditioning and remaining in a state of wanting, striving and attachment is not.

Yet, unlike every other creature, we are so completely free, we're even free to go against our own nature.

So we're free to spend years striving and rowing upstream to get what we want.

Believing striving and discipline and hard work and sacrifice are all necessary.

And, despite all of our resistance to ourself, we may do a great job and achieve a great deal...

But it will always be a concession and compromise relative to what we’d really Love and could otherwise experience if we'd only quit wanting and striving and resisting.

And do what's natural.

To Choose and Accept.

Hard-work, self-discipline and massive action may all be viewed as necessary and admirable.

We may even use them as a means of validating ourself and, in overlooking WHO it is we believe we need to validate or improve, we may invest in 101 ways to be better or more effective and efficient at striving! ??

But popular as all of this may be, it's NOT natural.

It's all led by non-acceptance, resistance and ignorance of our nature.

It's led from and by fear and a belief in lack.

And alleviating fear and lack are SO easy to sell to!

But, if we live from fear and a belief in lack, there are consequences.

One being that we're continually in our own way.

Another being the failure to recognise that 'dis ease' felt in the body is an intelligent signal encouraging us to turn around and go with the flow of our nature!

To do what's natural.

To Choose and Move.

By (1) deciding what we'd Love and (2) moving in the mind to accepting it.

HOW?

?? First and foremost, by recognising what’s most important and yet most overlooked.

Our true and first nature.

To recognise who we’re referring to when we say 'I'.

To recognise we’re clearly not referring to our changing, physical body or our changing thoughts, feelings or circumstances or to what comes and goes.

We’re referring to the one who is aware of our body, thoughts, feelings, circumstances and all that changes.

We're referring to the changeless observer of everything that comes, goes and changes in our life experience.

"I" is the knowing awareness we are. Prior to the mind, prior to names, labels and conceived limitations.

?? Next, it’s to recognise and exercise our second nature which is to move freely in the mind.

And to understand that where we choose to move and what we dwell in the mental fulfilment of leads behaviours, experiences and results.

When we realise this, it becomes obvious why trying to create change sucks!

And why striving to change our thoughts, feelings, behaviours or circumstances can feel so hard.

Because they're all outcomes!

It's working outside-in.

Going against our nature without even realising it.

Although we feel it.

Is it any wonder personal and corporate 'change programmes' fail as they do?

They're inspired by wanting change and trying to get to an outcome instead of being inspired by and led from the fulfilment of the desired outcome.

Massive difference!

What’s natural is to know what really leads behaviours and change.

?? What's natural is to know who we truly are, choose what we’d Love and fall in Love with our ideal.

Knowing that thoughts, feelings, actions, behaviours and results always fall into line.

That’s how we really make shifts we love.

Going with the flow of our first nature and exercising our second nature - our freedom to move in the mind.

To row downstream from fulfilment, not upstream in pursuit of it!

If we let the mind and a false concept of self lead us, then striving, sacrifice, unwanted patterns, resistance, feelings of dis ease, non-fulfilment and degrees of sorrow, lack and longing are inevitable.

All because we're doing what's normal and ignoring our nature.... which we're free to do.

But, as my coach said to me: "Now you're aware of this, not experiencing what you'd Love is just a choice!"

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