Are you The Fixer?

The fixer is holding the sky up for everyone. She is running a business. She is always on. She is constantly scanning for danger. She keeps her constant worry a secret because she wants to make sure everyone else around her is okay.

She wishes that sometimes she could just run away and hide for a bit and someone would just take care of her for once. Someone would just take care of it all for once. She wishes someone would just make the decisions and it wasn’t always on her. She wishes that someone would get it, the worry, the niggles, the overwhelm, the lack of energy but she doesn’t ask for help.

The fixer manages everyone else’s problems. She runs the business, organises the holidays, brings the fun, runs to the shops, makes sure everyone is okay. She hides her own stress because she frankly doesn’t have time to think about herself. She’s too busy fixing, people pleasing and holding the sky up.

In her business, she is one people turn to, she’s the one that solves the problems, finds the solutions, motivates and brings the magic when no-one notices that her energy is dipping. She is always high performing, high achieving; to the rest of the world she is nailing it.

The fixer cracks on. She makes it work. She loves making people feel good, she is fired up when her business is working. She wishes someone else could just sort it; just for a little bit; to give her brain her a break.

She wishes she could just switch off for just one day but when she sits down with that brew, she remembers that other thing that needs doing and she cracks on again.

The fixer feels guilty if she puts herself first, she doesn’t ask for help, she absorbs more and more, she’s smiles, she helps, she cares and she’s always on. She is everyone else’s cheerleader and champion. She is her own worst critic, thinking she needs to do more, better, faster.

The fixer will also procrastinate not sure which direction to turn, gifting her energy to her business, her work, people in her care; never to herself.

She is high performing, high achieving and now often loses focus, is distracted, feels on edge and still she holds it all in. She is everyone else’s caretaker; making the money, bringing the fun, the plans, the organisation, watching for any blips to fix so everyone else is okay. Her success depends on everyone else’s success but something is missing.

Inside she is cracking.

If you’re ready to do do differently, to think differently, to still achieve, to crack on without cracking up, Rethinking Your Success is my 12-week performance mindset and resilience programme to empower you to crack on, to access more energy, freedom, ease and joy every single day.

Rethinking Your Success begins in two weeks on the 16th September. If you’re ready to give your mindset a MOT, recode your system and perform under pressure without cracking, send me a message and let’s chat.?

Rethinking is about doing differently, building a performance mindset and crucially boosting your resilience to navigate change and adversity.

'Rethinking Your Success’ is a new 12-week coaching and training programme rooted in brain science. With a focus on practical and applied development, I use coaching and training techniques and neuroscience alongside Emergenetics profiling - your window to self-awareness. Connecting Neurolinguistic Programming models such as the Pyramid of Logical Levels and insight from the Chimp Paradox in a new framework that will help female leaders gain a better understanding of who they are, how they operate, develop new perspective, get unstuck and?“regain control amid the chaos of life”.

I’ve a few spaces left for my September cohort of the programme and if you’d like to have a chat about how the programme can help you, drop me a message on?[email protected] .

AND most importantly,?be kind to yourself this week.?It’s just another day. You’ve got this.

I see you. Lean in my friend. I’m here to help you fix you. It’s about recoding your system.