Why Perfectionism Is a Double Edged Sword

The Perfectionist's Paradox: From Paralyzed to Productive

Have you ever strived for something so flawlessly it ended up hindering progress? That's the double-edged sword of perfectionism. Dr. Daniela Salazar, a clinical psychologist, explores this concept and offers tips to harness its positive aspects.

Perfectionism often involves setting unrealistic standards and tying self-worth to achievement. This "tyranny of the shoulds" fuels harsh self-criticism, anxiety, and even depression. It can feel like a double-bind; letting go of perfectionism might mean giving up the drive that has fueled past successes.

But the key lies in using this drive productively. Perfectionists often get bogged down in details, sacrificing efficiency for a mythical "perfect" outcome. Instead, consider the impact of your actions. Is meticulously editing an email for the 15th time truly necessary, or could that time be better spent preparing for a meeting?

Challenge those negative thoughts! Perfectionists have a constant inner critic nagging them about how things could be better. Learn to identify these thinking patterns and challenge them. When negativity spirals, try grounding techniques: focus on your five senses, listing things you can see, touch, hear, smell, and taste. This "unhooks" you from rumination.

Track your progress. Regularly ask yourself how perfectionism impacted your relationships, work, and overall well-being. Did it hinder or benefit specific situations?

Set deadlines! The more time available, the more a perfectionist might procrastinate. Force yourself to "ship" the project, complete or not, by a specific date.

Embrace "good enough." Experiment with completing tasks to an acceptable, not perfect, standard. You might surprise yourself at how little others notice the "imperfections" and how much more time you have for the things you truly enjoy.

Remember, perfectionism can be a powerful tool. It's all about harnessing its energy to propel you towards excellence, not paralyze you with self-criticism.

Dr. Daniela Salazar, Director of Education and Clinical Psychologist at The LightHouse Arabia?

Arabian Business

Nov, 2020