Why LOVE is a Waste of Time
What if I told you, Love is a waste of time! You won’t agree, right?
Of course, you won’t!
You must have heard that love is a great feeling that makes you complete and hundreds of other things, but all those are just your hormones messing up with your logical brain.
There are few exceptions, in most cases.
We live in a fast-moving world where everything is changing in a blink of an eye. Love is a sweet 4 letter word but the problem these days is that we seek love from people who don’t love us.
We keep on wasting time on people who don’t appreciate, nor love us. It’s kinda funny I guess, why do we focus on finding love from the narcissist?
I came up with few possible reasons.
The biggest reason is Movies & TV series. The love story we see in Movies & TV series aren’t even close to reality.
We develop a fictional character inside us.
Be it a girl or a boy they want their love story to be like the one in “The Notebook”, “A Walk To Remember” & “Titanic”.
We have created so many fictional characters in ourselves that we have forgotten who we really are.
You spend too much time thinking about him/her.
Yes, if you had spent the same time doing something productive. you would probably be a millionaire by now.
S/he is always on your mind, and you have almost no clue whether they have the same feeling or you or not.
In short, you are just wasting your precious time on earth for so-called “Love.”
If you are at a younger age, consider investing the same time on your growth.
It will help you in the long run.
You are clung to the phone
Just answer honestly, how many hours do you stay online and wait for his/her messages?
10 hours, 12 or 16? Probably 16, Right?
When do you have time for yourself or your family?
You probably don’t talk to your family much too!
Anything in excess is sure to cause damage, and an overuse of phone will too.
Moreover, you are not gaining anything, except few hours of **Sweet** talks.
If you don’t want these Sweet talks to turn Bitter in your long run, consider limiting the time you devote.
There is no end to your Confusion
You are always confused.
Whether s/he likes me,
Whether it’s real love,
Whether he/she is dating someone behind your back,
Whether he/she is honest about their feelings,
Whether he/she will always be with you…
And thousands of more questions.
What does “hmm” mean?
Why did he/she act like getting bored while talking with me?
Why he/she went offline earlier than me, why he/she didn’t like my status?
Questions, Questions, and Confusions.
Questions like these confuse you to no end. You can call yourself a “Confused Soul” when you are in love.
You are distracted
Compare your pre-relationship life with post-relationship?
Your productivity decreased, right?
If that didn’t happen, you are probably not in real love.
We often get so much indulged in this Fancy word called “Love” that we forget to do what’s important for us. Believe it or not, you are killing your future. (Unless you are already a millionaire)
Had a great talk with him/her today?
You will be happy throughout the day. However, if you didn’t have a talk or had a small fight, you will be sad and would sometimes just like to hit everyone who comes near you.
In short, your whole mood is influenced by someone else.
Aren’t you giving them too much power over yourself? Think about it!
You keep on trying to please him/her.
Don’t you get bored with it?
I mean who will attempt to please every time. You have to wear clothes of their choice; you need to make sacrifices for them. If he/she accepts you the way you are, that’s an entirely different thing.
You are always in “Waiting” mode.
You are waiting for a message,
Waiting for a call
Or maybe waiting for something else.
But you will surely be in a “waiting” mode.
Waiting for countless hours seem to be normal when you are in a relationship.
Singles don’t need to face such issues, and they can do whatever they want to.
Our generation is messed in Movies & TV soap series that they are unable to realize it’s all fictional & scripted.
And all those guys who are single out there and who badly want to be in the relationship just understand one thing.
Even Rome wasn’t built in 3 days, the tree doesn’t grow in 1 week & flowers don’t grow in 1 week.
Similarly, your relationship will not grow in a week. It takes a time.
If you go on a date with a beautiful girl you will not tell her your flaws and even she won’t. Usually, at the start, they all tried to act fake so they can look cool in front of them.
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Thank you … They say woman chase guys who have money but I don’t find anything wrong in this.
Who doesn’t like successful people?
Surely girls want to fall for those guys who can fulfil their needs & bills too.
True love only exists in films & TV series get out of this freaking fictional world.
The last reason I would say is our generation is afraid of responsibility. Our generation doesn’t want to live in the world full of compromises.
Want to add word or two?
If you met a girl and fell in love with her she will have 70% of the things you want and 30% the things that you don’t want. The problem is we search for that 30% in another girl without knowing the fact that the other girl too will have some flaws.
Your comment ….?
Trying to move on from someone you loved can be the worst feeling in the world. It doesn’t matter if one person loved the other way more; both will have to suffer from the pain.
Just as darkness wouldn’t exist without light; love wouldn’t exist without pain.
And it happens to be a universal law that you need to go through at least one heart –wrenching breakup before you really find someone who can mend it all again.
So, how do you heal a broken heart?
Time and words heal all wounds. Even though it is you who need to go through all those pain
Love someone not how they look because you have to deal with the characters in the end. Don’t tell their flaws to anyone, tell them directly. Love is not something that you do for yourself, it’s what you do to serve others.
So this is how the relationship in today’s world start by a “Lie“. And the thing which starts with a lie doesn’t stand strong because the foundation is so weak.
Most of the men today are actually looking for one night love.
How shambolic is this kind of love?
It’s just a vicious circle. I don’t want to blame anyone here neither men nor woman.