WHY JUST WORKING HARDER WON’T SOLVE THIS PROBLEM

As a strong, smart, ambitious woman I was always so accustomed to working really hard to get the things I wanted in life. 

So, with this idea, whenever I had a problem in my romantic relationships, I would take the same approach.

I would confront the person to discuss the issue, try to brainstorm solutions, figure out what step we needed to take, if needed thinking through ways to “support” or worse “fix” the person. 

"It was like I was pouring gasoline on a RAGING FIRE and expecting it to extinguish."

Take a look at the video I did this week about this topic – CLICK HERE.

So, if you are like me and realizing that your WORK HARDER method is not actually accomplishing anything in your relationship try doing this instead:

• Take a break and go for a walk by yourself. Give yourself some time to think and reflect.
• Put some space between you and that person. Not only do you need to give yourself time to think, you also need to give that person time to think about how they feel and what they need. Stop trying to get them to talk, text, or confront. Just leave them alone for a while.
• Do something that makes you feel good. Go shopping, watch t.v., listen to music, hang out with friends. It so hard to find a positive solution when you feel so negative. Do something to change your emotional state then revisit the issue later.
• Focus on how you can improve yourself and take of your personal needs. Often when we do some intro section we may see where areas where we need to improve in order to be happier in general.

Human beings are not work or school projects; we are complex creatures with emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. When we try to treat our relationships like work or school projects, we often disappoint ourselves and set ourselves up for pain. 

By taking the path of least resistance, i.e. letting go of trying so hard, and just allowing things to naturally flow, we find that the answers come. 

XOXO Tiffiny

P.S. if you want more ideas on how you can truly dig deeper and transform your internal world so you can attract better relationships, more abundance and overall a more peaceful existence let’s chat.

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