Why It's Hard To Create Lasting Habits
Tim Perreira
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Thought of the week:
"Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken."
-Warren Buffett
In this week's dose, I talk about why our slippery mind makes it hard to build new habits.
Our minds are slippery.
They know our hot buttons and what makes us tick.
Trying to create a new habit?
Can't stay motivated?
Ooh baby, that's where the slippery mind THRIVES.
It knows exactly what we need to hear to derail our progress or sabotage us before we start.
"You're 4 whole days in and you have ZERO results. See, told you it won't work. Knew you wouldn't?do it."
Brutal and dramatic isn't it?
Our mind has a tough time understanding the?potential future increase?in how we'll feel. It only wants to see the negative.
Think about this...
If you say you're going to eat healthy or get in shape
ALL your mind thinks about are?all the?quesadillas &?beer you'll have to give up.
"Why are we going to give up what we love?? You're taking away the small amount of joy I get during my week!? This is bullshit."
And it storms away like a pissed-off teenager.
It's unable to foresee that you MIGHT just feel better (until we train it to).
And the tradeoff of giving up beer &?quesadillas means...
You FEEL 30 pounds lighter.
You're less bloated and pass gas less.
You have way more energy. You feel less inflamed.
You think clearly & can focus again!
You gain back motivation?& find meaning?in your day.
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Think of being?that?person... what would THAT feel like really?
To get to a point where it's a no-brainer for you to turn down a beer or junk food.
To look forward to an early morning because you know you'll feel amazing and?not like shit.
To be able to chase your kids around with more energy.
To be able to pour your heart into a side hustle because you wake up feeling like you're shot out of a cannon.
Like a man on a mission.
What's the ROI on?that?
Give up beer + quesadilla (short-term comfort) for all the stuff listed above (long-term growth)??
I'm going with a 10X ROI.
But our mind doesn't think about future benefits on its own.
We have to consciously train it to do so.
The reason that habits don't stick, is that we don't tie them to a strong enough REASON either.
Our mind's default is to focus on what we have to?give up.
We don't take time to envision what we?GAIN?and who we?BECOME?with this future change.
Or what?IMPACT?that change will have on our life and our loved one's life.
If you really want to change, you HAVE to identify a strong,?compelling reason?to change.
And get crystal clear on the type of person that has the?habits you want...
Then become that person.
But know that you're human.
By rule, you HAVE to make mistakes.
You were BORN to make mistakes.
So take it easy on yourself when you miss a day or have to start all over.
Failure + challenges...
It's what you were born to do.
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1 年Hallo Everybody. Just being adherent today. To get past old Habits that might refrain us to deliver and achieve... I shall picture and visualize The New Me, similar to the Buyer Persona in Marketing. Stick with it at a daily Basis and get Up after each Fall, still it becomes a part of me, a prolongation of My self, ingrained naturally in my Brain.
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1 年Awesome article Tim Perreira. I'm totally with you that defining who you want to become is extremely important. Also managing stress has been a huge piece of this for me to help me manage the discomfort of growth.
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1 年Without discipline in the beginning we won't build great habits. When dopamine ebbs down and things get boring a strong WHY will pull you through. Great article, Tim
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1 年Our minds are great at focusing on what we have to give up, rather than what we gain. To create new habits, we need to consciously train them to envision the future benefits, who we'll become, how that will feel. All much easier if we give ourselves the grace to struggle throughout the process, "shaky legs" is a sacred part of starting anything new (like a baby deer, haha). Great stuff, Tim.