Why I Went Silent After the Superbowl

Why did I go silent after the Super Bowl Halftime Show? If you know me, you know I was SO excited to see JLo and Shakira perform. I waited 3 months to see them do their thing, and then once it was over, I was just… stunned.

I felt almost disappointed, and it was just so not like me at all.

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Finally, after 3 whole days, it dawned on me. A little light switch went off in my head, and OH MY GOSH, you guys, I could not believe what I had done!

I realized that my expectations for the Halftime show were astronomically different than what actually happened. I had this whole picture in my head of what I thought JLo and Shakira were going to do. But then they did something different, and I judged them for it.

ME. I did that! I judged JLo and Shakira. My own sisters, my fellow ladies.

What I did was create a glass ceiling for my fellow women. I wanted JLo and Shakira to reinvent themselves. And I’m sitting here now like, ugh, Joanna, why? I was doing to these two women what EVERYONE does to women!

Mind freakin’ blown.

We create these stupid expectations in our heads where we think women should constantly reinvent themselves, because we get bored if they look or act the same for too long.

How messed up is that?

I was just watching Taylor Swift’s “Miss Americana” Documentary on Netflix, and she talked about this same exact thing. She said female artists have so much more pressure to recreate themselves, because if you don’t, you’re dead to the public.

But here’s the thing. JLo and Shakira were doing what they always do! They dance. They’re movers and they’re shakers. I expected them to do something that would shock me, to do something different. But they didn’t. It was so selfish of me to feel let down.

Once I let go of my expectations, I saw that performance in a whole different way. I fell in love with it for what it was.

So my question to you is this. Where in your life are you putting expectations on other people, so that when they hit them, you can feel better?

Ladies, we can’t judge women for doing what they do.

When we get let down, that’s when we get hurt. But it’s not other women, or men’s job to always meet our own expectations.

Let expectations go.

Focus on you. Let your freak flag fly. Celebrate people for who they are.

And then let’s shatter that glass ceiling.

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