Why I chose the cocktail party metaphor

In my last communication I let you know about how many people were mad at me about the cocktail party, and some for valid reasons!?

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I originally chose it because there’s one thing all of my active reach outs always had in common.

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And this is the reason that they worked so well!?

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The reason why I got the seven quantum leap opportunities I did.

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What they had in common was that:

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I never expected or required a yes.

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I did them as a YES to myself!?

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And then real-life yeses for awesome things followed!

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But I know in my bones that if I had been even a little bitter about getting a no, "a not right now" or even a no response.

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I’d never have continued on the path.?

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And I thought about it like this:

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When someone buys you a drink at a bar, if there’s any expectation attached to it, like they now want your number because they bought you the drink, or worse they are hoping you’ll sleep with them because they bought you a drink, that is a NO GO and it’s gross right??

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Same with the reach outs. You can’t do it with ANY?expectation.

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You have to be graciously respectful and even appreciative of a no.? ?

And a nonresponse can’t get you mad either.?

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When we reach out to people just like if we buy someone a drink, it has to be from genuine kindness and care.?

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No expectations.?

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A few other reasons:

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So it’s not about the “drinks” , it's definitely not about alcohol. And it’s not even about cocktails.

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??It’s about the personalization and love and care that can be put into something for an individual person.?

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??It can be their favorite Starbucks.?

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??It can be just knowing that they don’t like the big conglomerates like Starbucks and they prefer to only support local coffee shops!?

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??It can simply be a gift for someone that you know they will like because you know enough about them to know.?

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It’s not a generic gift you bring to a secret Santa that “everyone will like.”? ?

It’s a deeply personalized thing.

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And a cocktail is that.

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It’s personalized.

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But who cares about the cocktail?

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What opportunities do you want to get a yes from??

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Let’s discover them, create them, and start getting them on the cocktail party class!?

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Only a few days to get your ticket!?

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Join here.?

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Look at all the people who have already jumped in! So you’re in good company.

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