WHY I BECAME A POST-DIVORCE SPECIALIST

My career began as a family law solicitor.

I soon decided there must be a better way to help my clients have more control over their outcome when getting divorced, rather than rely on an expensive and unpredictable legal process.

I trained as a mediator so clients could retain control.

Mediation is a confidential process which allows a couple to decide how they want to resolve their separation issues and co-parent their children. The couple are in control of the outcome. The mediator’s role is to ensure the couple understand the information they need to share to enable a solution to be found and understand the legal rules that may impact any decisions they make.

This process proceeds at the pace set by the couple. It is much quicker than following the legal route as both parties can respond immediately to information. Equally, they are free to reflect and seek legal advice on matters discussed.?Nothing is binding until they both agree their proposals can be embodied into a Consent Order finalising the divorce.

I have always prided myself on being understanding and empathetic towards my clients. In my professional capacity I appreciate what a person goes through when a relationship breaks down and how difficult it is for them to navigate through the legal process, manage their own emotional trauma as well as being there for their children. I also realised that being a solicitor-mediator is not enough.

Being a solicitor or mediator is not enough

I have always wanted to help people. As a solicitor my role was to provide legal advice and representation to my clients. When I became a mediator, I believed that I was giving clients control over their lives, I was saving them money and helping them cut through the legal process to achieve an amicable resolution as opposed to being sucked into an adversarial legal system.

Irrespective about how cooperative or conciliatory their solicitors might be, the clients experience trauma, worry and anxiety every time they receive a letter or email from the other person’s legal representative.??

I realised that clients need more help to navigate their way through the legal process and jargon and I was limited as to the level of emotional assistance I could give as they struggled with the challenge of ending their marriage.

Clients need more help

I realised that even with the help of an experienced mediator or solicitor, the clients still felt overwhelmed, and required additional help before, during and beyond the relationship breakdown that is not naturally provided by the solicitor or mediator.

A solicitor will deal with the legalities of the separation or divorce as they arise, advise, and move the client through the legal process. They do not have the time, nor is it their role to support the client on an emotional level or help a person manage the emotional and practical challenges of processing the end of their marriage and life as they know it.

Mediators are better positioned to guide their clients through these changes as well as facilitating agreement on parenting plans.

In addition to these services, much more help is needed on the emotional front to ensure a client’s divorce experience is as manageable as possible and to put them in the best possible place mentally where they feel able to move on past the divorce.

To fill this gap I became a Post-Divorce Specialist

As my legal and mediation experience grew, I became very interested in how people communicate with each other and how they view themselves, so I trained as a personal development coach and Dream Builder Coach? so that I had all the skills to help clients have the right support, whether it was before, during or after the relationship breakdown and throughout the legal process and journey of separation or divorce.

It became evident to me, that persons going through a relationship breakdown need access to someone from the very beginning when they are considering divorce and are still uncertain about whether they really believe their relationship is ended.

I add to the professional services clients receive by giving my clients the time and guidance they need through 121 sessions. For those who find comfort and reassurance in knowing they are not alone, I provide group coaching sessions. I provide a real human connection; I listen and communicate directly with them and provide emotional and practical support. I help them through the doubt, overwhelm, and worry of the situation.

I help my clients gain clarity on their own thoughts and explore with them what they really want, as well as providing comprehensive information and guidance about the different legal requirements which can save them significant amounts of money.

When you invest in yourself to ascertain what is really important to you, or decide which legal process is the most appropriate for you to follow and will best serve you, it is not only empowering but liberating and is the first step to building a future you love living.

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