This is why Heartaches when it breaks

Heartbreaks are not pleasant but at some point in life we all have gone through it and they suck. However, some of us are very quick to come out of that zone of anxiety and despair while some of us just remain there to pile up our miseries and misfortunes. So the question is what are these heart-crushing moments and how we can come out of it strong.

First, if we close our eyes and imagine the moments when we felt heart lost, we will find one factor in common. This is one factor that is found in every situation that hasn't gone according to your heart making it nervous and restless. Without wasting much time on it that one single factor that is present in almost every heartache is the burden of our expectation.

Yes, recount all those moments when you felt bittered and lost all those moments will have one thing in common, the outcome of those situations didn't go as per your plan. You might have planned a beautiful success in your business but it was stuck with an unforeseen roadblock. Or that person whom you considered to be your life long partner left you at the sight of the very first fight.

Situations or circumstances in our lives are filled with such moments that have not gone as planned, unfortunately, not many of us are good enough to realize the moments and make peace with them. At times some crushing moments in our lives leave us battered and change us for a personality we in our conscious awareness will always despise off.

Heartaches really crush the stories that we entertain in our hearts and minds when we exaggerate any outcome based on our perception. For example: When planning a business you might only look at the opportunities ignoring the fact that 90% of the situations you are planning for will never ever happen. This is why in business you must enter with sound strategy rather than exaggerated claims.

The same goes when we are in a relationship, few good moments and meetings and we sketch this most iconic picture of the person in our minds that can do us no wrong, and our world comes crashing down when the other person starts judging us as per their own set of expectations and rules.

What I am trying to convey here is that we cannot or should blame anyone for anything. We as humans need to understand that we have a lot under our control only if we are looking inside. We realize that our expectations are our own imagination so we must not dwell hard on to them if they don't materialize are per our expectations. No doubt, we must keep positive thoughts in our minds, positive outcomes but we also must be ready to accept the things the way they are. If our efforts are not yielding us the results we want we must not declare its fate as our destiny rather should work out ways to turn those events around.

We must never allow us to be at the mercy of our strong held thoughts. we must be flexible enough to realize and mature enough to understand that a missed opportunity is just an opportunity which if you stay agile enough will rise again. Yes, pain is there but to remain in that pain forever till the time it breaks your guts is purely your own choice. So, it's imperative to rise above your pain and evaluate your situation to put your best foot forward.