Why “Happy Wife, Happy Life” is complete BS (And You Know It)

What man hasn’t heard that after telling his best friend, a loud uncle or some drunk in a bar that he just got engaged.?

Yes, just about every newly engaged man has heard that saying.

But is it true? Furthermore, is happiness the virtue we should be shooting for??

Have you ever asked yourself, what exactly is happiness? Is happiness the joy you feel inside when something good happens to you? How about if you do something good for a loved one or friend?

I’m going to say something quite controversial. People don’t want “happy”. They would much rather have excitement.?

Imagine you’re a woman. You say “I would like a red Lexus and a 14 carat ring”. The man goes and gets it - are you happy? What if you said “I want 10 acres and a kiss every morning” and the man gets that for you. Are you happy now??

Happiness in our culture somehow ended up meaning “satisfied”. And let me tell you - that is the last thing you want in a relationship.?

If we truly wanted “happy” we wouldn’t have reality TV shows and unmatchable standards like the Kardashians. People want excitement. A good passion-filled relationship is constantly growing.?

“Happiness is like a light. It’s good if it’s on, but if it’s always on, it might as well be the sun.”

Shouldn’t happiness mean more than just being satisfied? Happiness should be the feeling you get on the other side of a difficult conversation...one that makes you feel closer to your loved one because of the depth of emotions you experienced to get there.?

Do you know someone who seems happy all the time and think to yourself, “what is wrong with him?”?

You don’t always trust “happy”. You’re always curious about what’s really going on under the surface.?

As humans, we always feel more alive with challenges and adversity. Sitting underneath a shade tree in a green pasture with clouds rolling by might feel like a “little slice of heaven”. Then again...how long do you give yourself before you get “stir crazy” and crave that next thing.?

In the end, “happy” might be a great ideal, but it just might lead to “boring”. If that’s the case, “Happy Wife, Happy Life” might be the most boring thing I've ever heard of...

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Courtney Alberson is the Founder and Chief Solutions Engineer at Sidecar Solutions, LLC, in Colorado Springs, CO. Courtney helps people who feel they are drifting through life.?

They may think that they are not accomplishing goals they (or others) set for them. Some feel that there is something that is missing from their lives.?

Or they question their career choices and wonder if they made a mistake.

And they may not be truly happy.?

In any of those or similar scenarios, Courtney can help. In her career, she has coached CEOs and other C-level executives, senior managers, entrepreneurs and military officers to reach their untapped potential to become the person they were meant to be.?

By using modern coaching protocols like Neuro-Linguistic Programming, IFS, TFT and others, she helps her clients face any challenge that may come their way.?

You can email Courtney at [email protected] or get on her calendar here for a 20-minute introductory interview.?