Why Goodness is Taken for Granted—And How to Stop it

Why Goodness is Taken for Granted—And How to Stop it

I like to start my day on my terms.

Not just because it’s a preference but because it’s one of the few things I can control. Once I leave home, my day somewhat depends on other people—their actions, moods, and decisions. But my mornings are mine and I don't allow anyone to intrude into or influence how I begin my day.

This sacred window of time is what I call the zero hour—a period of solitude, clarity, and focus. It’s when I read, reflect, or write. There are no distractions, no obligations, just me, my thoughts, and a fresh start.

After that, I'll move on to my physical routine. That’s when Guruji arrives.

Guruji, my yoga instructor, is unlike most people I encounter. He is gentle and respectful and exudes a rare mix of wisdom and childlike innocence. His simplicity is refreshing in a world obsessed with complexity.

I look forward to my morning with Guruji, not just because of yoga. Starting the day with goodness is the best way forward.

When Goodness is Taken for Granted

Guruji has a long list of clients, many from privileged backgrounds—educated and prosperous. Yet, the way a few of them treat him is appalling.

They cancel at the last minute without notice. They expect him to rearrange his entire schedule to accommodate their convenience without considering that he has other commitments. Some barely acknowledge the effort he puts in.

And the worst part? He takes it all in his stride.

He smiles through it, never complains, never retaliates. But I can see it. The quiet disappointment. The subtle hurt.

When I ask him why he tolerates this and doesn’t push back, his response is always a change of topic.

The Silent Epidemic of Tolerance

Guruji isn’t alone.

There are countless people like him—people who give their best and receive the bare minimum in return. Not because they’re weak. But they’ve convinced themselves that accepting mistreatment is better than confronting it.

And here’s the harsh truth: People will treat you exactly how you allow them to.

If you let someone walk all over you, they won’t hesitate to do it again. If you let someone disrespect you, they’ll assume it’s okay. If you accept being an afterthought, that’s precisely where you’ll stay.

Does that mean you have to fight fire with fire? Not at all. You don’t have to be rude, aggressive, or confrontational. But you do need to set boundaries.

If someone disrespects your time, call them out. If someone takes you for granted, show them the exit. If someone consistently disregards your effort, stop giving it to them.

Draw the Line

Life is too short to tolerate inconsiderate behaviour. Some will keep testing how far they can push you if you don't set boundaries.

So stand your ground. Speak up when necessary. And remember—if you keep taking the hits, people will keep throwing them.


Ashwin Kumar M

Event Manager | Venue Manager | Match Day Manager | Sports Events Venue Operations | Cricket Operations | First-Class Cricket Umpire

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I find this inconsiderate attitude prevalent among the doctors. Of course, in my experience. They do not encourage walk-ins (which is fine). Even when we book appointments, they hardly respect it. They always have some urgent work which does not allow them to respect the appointment that they fixed. To add to it, they are not even apologetic about it.

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