Why Excessive Power Will Always Lead to Women Betrayal

Men don’t seek power because society tells them it’s OK. Men seek power because society tells them they are entitled to be in control. In fact, society says that if you are not in control, you won’t succeed – you won’t get the girl, you won’t get the money, and you will be subservient to other men. It says that if you fail to be a “real man”, you will end up poor and alone.

Coercive control is a form of abuse though. It destroys the other side’s sense of autonomy and their sense of self. It creates unexplained dependance to make a ‘willing-slave’ out of others. Coercive controllers don’t follow the rule book. They play games, lie, cheat, use violent means, deny freedom… anything for control.

This is systemic. So much of this slave mentality exists in our country in worship of power without application of mind. There is a reason for it. It is explained by the power-control theory.

Power-control theory says that men batter women as show of power to control the balance of power within families. Both the victim and the batterer acknowledge and accept this as the reality of their relationship. The laws are again controlled by power hungry men and gender biases ensure that justice to these women are a minority phenomenon.

The societal bias is to such an extent that the battered woman is often blamed for the abuse she receives and frequently blames herself.

This has been suffered by your mother and is the destiny of your daughter because you are either a coercive controller yourself or a willing slave who will remain a silent witness.

See the recent social occurring and this relationship between power and women betrayal becomes alarming. We have the women wrestlers protesting in Jantar-Mantar in New Delhi ushered away by cops, followed by character assassinations in social media.?

The willing slaves in us either participated or kept quiet as though its a norm.?

A protest at the same Jantar Mantar by socially driven, justice seeking men a decade ago saw the reigns of power being handed over to the current government, regardless of police actions.

We have the Manipur incident, where women are paraded naked, and yet the ones in power are claiming high ground by claiming, “so what, other states are worse off.”?

Yet, a slight bit of mud slinging on those at the helm of power in this country enrages the entire population who demand that these people find another country to live in.?

Not to long ago we had a woman actor challenging the corridors of power in Maharashtra only to see her home mowed down the next day.

But when men come and break the same very government, all hell breaks loose and all enemies untie to defeat the centers of power.

What do the willing slaves do. They watch the nine o’clock entertainment, helpless and hopeless as ever.

A perpetrator of violence was quoted saying, “I never had any control over anything as a child, and I vowed that I would never let that happen to me again. I would always be in control.”

You see those with power value it because its about having power over someone. To create willing slaves the ones in power, whether in a family or in a government, isolate, micro-manage, humiliate, degrade, surveil, gaslight and create an environment of confusion, contradiction and extreme threat.?

And We The People still only want very small joys from life, so we look the other way, or we embrace the majoritarian. What else can we do?

Perhaps silence alone is the biggest betrayer of all. ?

And in doing so we carry the baton, we pass the baton, and we ensure that when the clutches of suffering come for your daughter, society will open a can of mudslinging, enough to create a quicksand for you to drown in and be forgotten.

Can you do something to make the change happen??

Yes you can. It begins at home.?

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