Why Every Professional Should Reconnect With Old Connections

Relationships are at the heart of faith, work, and life. But in the midst of busy schedules and new responsibilities, it’s easy to lose touch with the connections we once cherished. Whether it’s a former colleague, a mentor, or a friend from church, those “dormant ties” may hold more value than you realize.

If you’ve been sensing a nudge to reach out to someone from your past, you’re not alone. Research from Marissa King, a professor of organizational behavior at Yale School of Management, reveals that reconnecting with dormant ties can offer immense benefits—not just personally, but for your professional growth as well. These are people you already know but haven’t connected with in years. Interestingly, they’re more likely to provide fresh perspectives and creative ideas compared to brand-new acquaintances. Why? Because of a shared history and a foundation of trust.

This blog will explore the power of dormant ties, practical ways to reconnect, and how Christian principles like kindness and thoughtfulness can guide these relationships.

Why Dormant Ties Matter

We often think networking is about creating new connections. But what about the relationships we’ve already built? Reaching out to dormant ties can breathe new life into relationships that were put on pause, without the awkwardness of starting from scratch.

Fresh Perspectives and Creativity

Dormant ties often exist outside of your immediate network, meaning they bring new experiences, ideas, and perspectives to the table. While brand-new connections may require time to establish trust, dormant ties already have a layer of familiarity that allows for open dialogue.

For example, think back to a mentor from years ago. While you’ve both moved on, they may now be in a position to offer fresh advice because they know you, your goals, and likely have new experiences that could benefit you.

Building on Trust

Trust is the foundation of any valuable relationship, and dormant ties hold this advantage. Even if years have passed, a shared history often creates a feeling of ease when reconnecting. Few things are more impactful for professional and faith-based communities than a relationship built on mutual respect and trust.

By reaching out, you bring the focus back to shared values and experiences—qualities that are often missing in unfamiliar professional networks.

A Simple Way to Reconnect

Reaching out doesn’t have to feel awkward or overwhelming. It’s more about showing genuine interest than crafting the “perfect” message. Here’s a simple framework to get started:

1. Make a Weekly List

Set aside time each week to write down the names of two or three dormant ties. Think about the people who had a meaningful impact on you—former coworkers, old classmates, or even friends from your church or Bible study group. These should be people you enjoyed connecting with but simply lost touch with over time.

2. Start Small

Your first message doesn’t need to be long or detailed. The goal is to reopen the door. A simple note like, "Hey, I’ve been thinking about you! How have you been?" works wonders. If you’re nervous, remind yourself that most people appreciate being thought of and will be delighted to hear from you.

Examples of First Messages:

• “Hi [Name], I just saw a post that reminded me of something we worked on together—it brought back memories! How have you been?”
• “Hey [Name], I realized we haven’t spoken in a while. I’d love to hear what you’ve been up to. How’s everything going?"
• “Hi [Name], you came to mind during my prayer earlier today, and I wanted to reach out. How have you been?”

3. Be Genuine

The key here is authenticity. Reconnecting isn’t about chasing opportunities—it’s about reestablishing relationships. Show real care and curiosity for the person you’re reaching out to. This not only strengthens the reconnection but aligns with Christian values of kindness and thoughtfulness.

4. Add Value to the Conversation

Once you’ve broken the ice, use the reconnection to create mutual value. For example:

• Share an article or resource that might interest them.
• Invite them to an event, such as a professional seminar or even a small group Bible study.
• Ask about their current work or challenges and listen actively.

Faith in Action Through Reconnection

For Christian professionals, these moments of reconnection extend beyond resumes and LinkedIn profiles. They’re opportunities to demonstrate love, grace, and humility in daily life. Reach out with no ulterior motive other than care and concern. When relationships are rekindled through faith-centered values, you’re planting seeds that can bear both spiritual and professional fruit.

For example, after reconnecting with an old coworker, you might discover they’re navigating a difficult season. A simple message could lead to a meaningful prayer, a helping hand, or an opportunity to simply listen. These small acts reflect Christ’s teachings and can deeply impact the lives of others.

Overcoming the Hesitation

Reaching out may feel vulnerable. Questions like “Will they think this is random?” or “What if they don’t respond?” are common. Remember, though, that most people enjoy being thought of and are likely to appreciate your effort.

If you feel hesitant:

• Focus on the positive outcome. You’re doing something kind by reconnecting.
• Remember shared history. Dormant ties likely hold fond memories of your past relationship.
• Pray for confidence and clarity. Turn to God for guidance as you take this step.

Often, the act of reaching out strengthens your own courage and faith, regardless of the outcome.

What Happens Next?

Once you’ve reconnected, it’s easier to maintain the relationship. Schedule a coffee catch-up, chat over Zoom, or even exchange books or podcasts that align with mutual interests. These small gestures show your continued interest in nurturing the connection.

Over time, you’ll find that these renewed relationships contribute not only to your professional growth but also to a broader sense of community and faith.

Reignite Relationships and Foster New Opportunities

Reconnecting with dormant ties is a powerful and often overlooked aspect of networking, especially for Christian professionals who value relationships built on trust and faith. It’s an act of kindness, curiosity, and intention that often leads to unexpected blessings—new opportunities, fresh perspectives, and stronger communities.

Take a moment today to jot down two names. Who are the mentors, colleagues, or friends who might be delighted to hear from you? Send that first message and see where it leads. Sometimes, the smallest acts of reconnection open the door to the greatest opportunities.

Stay intentional. Stay prayerful. Reconnect.