Why Do People Come Into Our Lives?

In a lifetime we meet so many people and big or small, they play a role in influencing our #emotions, shaping our #personality and steering us to our #destiny in some way or the other.

Most of us never gave a serious thought to this, because probably we did not know how to classify them or categorize them. Should it be based on their knowledge, ?capability, values, or contributions, religion, position etc?

I am Ravi Nair – The Founder and CEO of Rich Minds and in this newsletter I have tried to provide a yardstick to classify people in your life, into three categories, so that you can handle them better.

So people always come into your life for a,?

-?Reason,

-?Season and a

-?Lifetime.?

?When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

Category-1 :?Reason

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even #spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason, you need them to be.

So it might a fitness coach who is in your life for a reason which is to keep you fit, and so he is there for a specific reason. It might be your financial advisor, who advises you on #financial investments and that’s the only reason he/she is there in your life.

Category-2:?Season

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

Think of some #Mentors who in the past stepped in to guide, mentor, nurture, motivate or inspire you when you started something new or were facing some challenges. These are the people are there for a season. These are people who just walked into your life, showed #compassion, #love and moral support for no reason, but just because of the way they are as human beings.

So think of some people where you are working now and you will find that there are some people with whom you are acquainted for a REASON and some with whom you are acquainted for a SEASON, which means there is no reason, but they are capable of changing the season and making you joyful and happy.

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Category-3:?Lifetime

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.?So it could also be people who have left for the heavenly abode, but their teachings stay with you and guide you all through your life.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.?

So the first people which might come to the mind of most would be their Parents. They are always there to provide guidance and support for a Lifetime and as time passes it may your better half. In some cases you might also have Boss or a Colleague who might become your Lifeline for a Lifetime. So think of those people too.

Many a times People who came into your life for a?REASON or SEASON might end up staying with you for a LIFETIME, and many cases it might not happen.

So when you look back in time and find some #relationships which turned bitter and could not stand the test of time, consider them as those, who came into your life ONLY either for a REASON or a SEASON.?They were probably not meant for a LIFETIME.?So don’t regret or get stuck with thoughts about them.

Now let's see how this classification can help handle negative emotions in any relationship -

There are numerous people in your life and you have a role to play in their lives. Some of them might consider you to be a REASON, while some consider you to be a SEASON, while some look at you for a LIFETIME relationship.

The big question here is how do you see yourself in their life?

A wife might see herself in her husbands life as a LIFETIME partner, but the husband probably sees her (at a mental level) as someone who is present for a reason or season or vice-versa.

For example- when you marry someone for only money or stability, that marriage is for a REASON or SEASON, and will not last a LIFETIME.

I am just toddling on the surface without diving deeper to restrict the length of the newsletter, but would like to follow it up with an request to give some serious thought in regards to your own role in other's life and introspect - 'if there's a conflict in between, your perception about your own role in their life and their perception about your role in their life.'

And as I conclude this newsletter many of you from the LinkedIn family have come into my life for a REASON and maybe some of you are part of it for a SEASON, and some might end up being an intrinsic part for a LIFETIME.?

Whatever was your purpose and role, I whole heartedly accept you and thank you for being part of my professional journey on #linkedin, so far.

And in years to come, with all of you wonderful people around, I am sure life is only going to get more merrier, happier and joyful.

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Thanks

Ravi Nair.

Founder & CEO- Rich Minds

www.therichminds.club