Why Do Intelligent Men FAIL On Dates
Tom Gruzman
Helping high performing men to meet & date the woman they desire, without neglecting their career, or wasting too much time.
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How come that the most intelligent and high-performing men are making the same common mistakes on dates?
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You, a genuine busy and hard-working man who has good intentions and loves women.
You feel that the date went well... but,
-Why is she less eager to see you again?
-Why doesn't she text you back anymore?
-Why did it appear as if the date went well, but you never hear from her again?
-How come she disappeared so fast?
"I know I'm a good man who can treat her so well. I don't understand why she lost her interest... and also so fast..."
After working one on one with dozens of men and have had experienced that same frustration myself in the past,
I identified the 3 most common and deadly mistakes intelligent men make that ruin their chances of finding love a creating the relationship of their desire:
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- On average, men tend to be more analytical and less connected to their emotions. They make the lethal mistake of communicating with their date on the surface-logical level and never go deeper than that.
They would often ask the girl what I call "job interview questions" and talk about logical, boring, bland, and vanilla topics.
This will rob your date the opportunity to invest emotionally and to connect with you!
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- Also, I know it will sound counterintuitive to everything you've been told, but she couldn't care less about your achievements and degrees/possessions, etc.
I know you are trying to show her that you're a good man who has his life together and that you take yourself seriously,
But not knowing how to communicate that properly will make you look like you are trying too hard. In that sense, you will appear to her as someone who is not that confident and trying to qualify himself to appear as good enough for her. That is very unattractive.
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Look, the truth is that she's not the only girl in the world. And she wants you to know and feel it too. Often, men, especially those who are very busy and have minimal time to date, treat a date like a scarce opportunity. It feels as they just have to 'win' over the girl, And it may sound romantic, but it creates the opposite effect:
It makes you put too much importance on the date and suffocates the moment's fun and lightheartedness.
If she feels that you need her, it will come across as weird and uncomfortable for her.
She wants to feel that you have other options, but you want to spend this moment with her, out of choice and not out of a need.
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Women. Hate. That.
STOP IT!
The narrative we've been sold from a young age - the one where the girl is a delicate flower, a Disney princess, or a special fragile snowflake is false. It doesn't apply to reality.
In truth, she's a person just like you. It doesn't matter how beautiful she is. She would appreciate a man who treats her as an equal.
Pleading and pandering to her will only make you appear as someone who is extremely uncomfortable in the presence of women and who can't handle her.
There are other better ways to show a woman that you respect, honor and adore her.
-I know how painful it can be to experience the aftermath of these mistakes we make unconsciously.
-From experiencing it myself and from working with numerous men to overcome that same problem.
-Therefore, I encourage you to act upon it and never experience that dreaded feeling and waste your time again.
Send me a message, and let's see if and how I can help you.
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