Why Do I Think and Act in Such Extremes? Exploring Techniques and Overcoming Overwhelming Busyness
Anthony Mazzella, Ph.D.
Psychotherapy & Psychoanalysis | Facilitating Change | Avid Cyclist
A listener's heartfelt question prompts a thoughtful exploration of the complexities surrounding healing fragmented selves. The listener's struggle with fatigue and burnout, pushing her to reevaluate her approach to helping others, unravels a narrative of extreme efforts to avoid deeper feelings. The episode delves into the intricacies of over-working, over-thinking, always acting and the need for constant stimulation to ward off painful emotions like loss, anxiety, and shame.
It is important reflect on and address the split-off feelings of oneself before genuine change can occur. It's emphasized that returning to her (overly) busy volunteer opportunities may not be a sustainable solution, merely postponing the need to slow down again. When the listener was forced to slow down her life, because of 'burnout" her experience of going inside her own head and finding it disastrous raised questions about the roots of such inner turmoil, possibly stemming from a childhood environment marked by excessive frustration or trauma.
The discussion pivots to the listener's perception of the world in abrupt extremes, manifesting as a struggle between viewing society as corrupt and dangerous or positive and loving. If you find yourself in this state of mind, it is important to both recognize and then challenge yourself - I would advocate- to move beyond the dichotomy of good or bad and embrace the complexity of human nature. The goal, termed "integration," involves recognizing and accepting differences without assuming complete disconnection, leading to a reduction in anger and projection.
The episode concludes with a powerful message – by moving towards integration, one can become less cynical about relationships and even society as a whole. The narrative provides a poignant exploration of the listener's journey, offering insights into the profound process of healing fragmented selves and fostering a more balanced, integrated worldview.
Does this resonate with you? Have you ever pondered the meaning behind your overly busy schedule, or considered the repercussions when you allow yourself—or are 'forced'—to slow down? The listener's experience opens a door to self-reflection, inviting you to explore the layers of your own internal landscape.
Have you found solace in constant activity, perhaps as a shield against deeper emotions? Or, on the contrary, have you faced the daunting task of navigating the complexities within your own mind when the relentless pace slows? Share your thoughts and experiences – the highs and lows, the moments of chaos and the stillness in between. Let's embark on a collective exploration of what it means to slow down.
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