Why can't we change ourselves or others in a big way???

Why can't we change ourselves or others in a big way???? ?

What is wrong in being ourselves as we are and as Existence made us ???? Why are we not accepting ourselves as it is and try to change by following someone or keeping someone as a role model??? Everybody is behind almost everybody to change himself / herself, so we feel comfortable with them. ? ? There are some reasons and autonomous systems working behind which prevents any type of manipulation which can have even the slightest effect on the continuous running systems...? ?

Let's understand the scenario from different incidents happening day to day in our life which are mentioned here in brief.? ?

• Incident/Effort #1 : By motivational speakers? ? Hundreds of motivational speakers are trying to change us without any major success but earning from our greed to change the life situations drastically...? ? Why motivational speakers are not in the list of top 10 richest persons in the world?? Why are they not motivating themselves to become Prime Minister??? Are they not facing any defeat in their life?????
• Incident/Effort # 2 : Self resistance to change:? ? If there is anything in the world that is most given and least taken, it's advice... either we don't want, or we couldn't change really anything but getting provoked by our surroundings to do so and getting trapped...? ?
• Incident/Effort #3 : We never give up? ? If we are not successful trying on ourselves, we try on others...? Why we wish our child should become like Vivekananda, Einstein...? What is the fault of our children and why he/she should be like others.... We try to fulfill our unfulfilled dreams which we couldn't fulfill...The child is perfect as it is, whatever good or bad, nature has made it with some understanding... Why we object to what nature is allowing / approving ???? ?
• Incident/Effort #4 : By advices? ? MAHABHARAT could not be avoided even after Krishna himself has gone to advise as a last attempt, but Duryodhana & his supporters were stubborn. ? ?

Existence rules :? ?

If we try to explain in simple words, the body of this birth has already been created with almost all the necessary information, i.e., what will you like to eat? What will you love to have? What will you study? Where will you work? Whom will you like and whom you will hate? When will you get married and with whom? How many children you will have? when will you get which diseases and from which habits, how many breaths you will have for living, etc. Brain remains live approximately 7minutes even after the person has died to record whole life events and append the blueprint recorded storage. New life with new body will have details of almost all important incidents which is going to happen in this life...there is no possibility to escape from the results of earlier lives... New activities done with consciousness without the Ego of the DOER can complete the cycle...? ?

Existence has created us all & not having any partiality....for it RAM & RAVAN are same... There is nothing good, bad, sin, virtues, hell, heaven, etc... in the perspective of existence...It handles every living beings in the same way... Based on our blueprint details we will be created by automatic system and will provide suitable circumstances or opportunity to live to complete pending wishes, expectations etc.? ? Now, when you get these pre-fixed things, do you accept them as the result of your own old karmas, wishes, hopes, dreams, attachments, or do you blame the person or the circumstances that caused all this. They have only done their job as a courier to deliver the parcel. Your reactions / reflections to these will be your new Karma which will either give immediate results and get lost or will be added to the list of results of the remaining Karmas to be suffered.... Our Astrology can be a proof of this if someone who knows it passionately and studies it selflessly...? ?

Conclusion: What is worth doing....? ?

After understanding the above, it will appear that it is not possible to change us or others. So what can be done next... A complete acceptance of what is happening. You will be able to enjoy life by being neutral. So be a little selfish for that, first accept yourself that nature has created and sent you as you are... Why a complaint against nature... Just be a witness and see for yourself what is happening in your mind or body...If you are angry, then accept that God has made you like this, then what can you do? Anger raises your body temperature, body shakes, why anger came, where did it come from,...As you begin to see as a witness, gradually the anger will fade away... In this way, you will be able to control other emotions too...so TOTAL ACCPTANCE.? ?

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