Why the best thing you can do is focus on feeling good

The following is taken from my new, free e-book: 25 Things I Wish I'd Been Born Knowing. You can download the e-book here: https://BookHip.com/BKBMS

"In order to feel good, you must decide to stop feeling bad. It’s as simple and profound as that. There is no other way."

Gabby Bernstein, Super Attractor

I have always tended to be goal-oriented and a control-freak. I am, as Gabby Bernstein would say, a ‘pusher’. I’ve historically spent most of my time and energy trying to force outcomes and make things happen. I can tell you, it’s exhausting! I’ve long ascribed to the ‘when/then’ model of happiness: when I get what I want, then I’ll be happy. But, as Bernstein gently tells us, 

“We have it all twisted! We think that we must live in fear in order to get something we want, which will then allow us to feel good. But the truth is that once you feel good, you start to easily attract what you desire! When we make feeling good our priority, everything else can flow."

We know, intellectually, that she’s right—but I find that it’s advice that I need to hear again and again. We live in a quantum universe, where the vibrations of our emotions dictate the electromagnetic signature that we send out into the world. Being miserable, and focusing on what we lack in our lives, is only going to bring us more of the same: more misery, and more lack. Dr Joe Dispenza explains this in Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself that needing a reason to feel good is being Newtonian: you’re operating from a cause-and-effect model. Instead, go quantum! As quantum creators, if we change something within us we can ourselves cause the effect that we want.

Bernstein’s nailed the issue in the quote at the top of this page — feeling good is a decision that we make, full stop. There will always be things we don’t have. There will always be irritations, conflict and regrets. But we can choose whether we allow them to define our emotional state. We can fake it till we make it; we can plaster on a smile and let our brain catch up with the cue that that smile sends to our nervous system. 

We don’t have to necessarily feel good about the bad stuff, but we can feel good despite the bad stuff. We can distract ourselves, indulge ourselves, and care for ourselves. We can choose to put on a song that makes us smile or lifts our spirits. I’ll be honest — I’ve been known to listen to Christmas songs at all times of year because they have that magical ability to make me feel as though all is good with the world. Whatever your feel-good trick is, don’t be shy about doing it. Focus on feeling good, and the rest will fall into place.