Why Aren't You Taking Action On Your Dreams

I see it all the time.

People caught up in learning and creating, but never actually getting to the DOING in their business.

The excuse they give themselves is that they don't know enough yet but the truth is THAT THEY DO!!!

*** NEWS FLASH ***

All you really need to know to start building your business online is WHO YOU ARE HELPING AND HOW YOU ARE HELPING THEM!!!

Everything else is just tactics.

Once you know that, all you need to do is craft your message to your market and then show up consistently, giving them value, and offering to help.

BADA BING BADA BOOM!

That really is it.

And yet, this is what I hear on a day-to-day basis:

1. Oh yes, well I'm doing this course and that course, and I need to finish them first so I know how to build my business out properly...

2. I really need to get this done, and perfectly work out my whole business plan before I start promoting myself...

3. I'm just spending all my time creating stuff and no-one wants it...

4. I'm in 50 million different opportunities and yet I'm still not making money.

Here's the truth about those things (corresponding numbers to above):

1.?You don't need to know how to create the infrastructure of a 7 figure business until you get to a multiple 6 figure business...

2. The most important thing you can do RIGHT NOW, is to be out there with your message to your market, showing up as the expert that can help them. It doesn't matter if you don't have your high-ticket program built out yet!!!

3. You can create till the cows come home home, but if no-one knows about it what's the point???

4.?Stop!!! You aren't not making money because you are not in enough opportunities. You're not making money cause you are confused about what you ware meant to be offering to who. And if you are confused then I can assure you that your market has no freaking idea what you are doing.

THE TRUTH IS that you are using all of those things as excuses to not do what you need to because of RESISTANCE to what it is that you are doing.

Some of this resistance is to do with the now, some to do with the past, and some to do with the future.

I wanted to share you some of the things I see with my clients, so that you can start to see if maybe those same things are causing a resistance in your flow towards your future.?

First I want you to imagine a flowing river. Let's call it the River of Desire.

Now the River of Desire flows from where you are now, to where you want to be...

The problem is, that at the moment there are a lot of boulders in that river that is stopping the water from flowing smoothly.

In some areas it is going so slowly it is unbearable, and in others there are rapids that are scary. And then there are the whirlpools...

You get stuck in one of those bad boys and it can be game over!

Now, that River of Desire is actually YOUR river. And those boulders are the points of resistance that YOU have in place that are stopping you from flowing smoothly to the life that you want.?

Some of them you may be aware of, but most of them you won't. And they are the things that are keeping you stuck and struggling.

Boulders of Resistance happen when your underlying belief system does not align with what you are trying to create in your life. And since that belief system was formed as a small child - often pre-verbal - there is a darn good probability that it is not set up to allow you to create a 6 figure business, or whatever else it is that you are manifesting right now.

So let's look at these Boulders of Resistance. What do they look like?

Well, the vast majority of them fall into one of these?6 Unwanted Beliefs. (Unwanted because while they might have served a purpose to protect us when we were young, they no longer serve that purpose, and instead, are now limiting us.)

1. I am not good enough.

2. I am not worthy

3. I don't belong

4. I am not perfect

5. I am not capable

6. I am not significant

You might snort as you read that list and declare that you do not have those beliefs, but every single client I have worked with, especially at the beginning, has defined themselves with at least one of those.

It's buried deep, but unless you've done a heap of work on yourself, or you were blessed with a perfect childhood (in which case you probably have no resilience ;-) ), then there is a very good chance that the shadow of at least one of those beliefs haunts you.

Now, can you see how, if that is what you believe about yourself on an unconscious level, that it would be practically impossible for you to create and retain those big goals and dreams that you have?

(Note how I said AND RETAIN? Some people, are so driven by the trauma of their childhood and their attempts to prove those beliefs wrong, that they can create extraordinary things. But then they often self-sabotage themselves in some way and lose it all. It is only when they are able to shift their beliefs and their energy that they can have their success and keep it too.)

Now, there are other boulders in the River of Desire that you might not be expecting.

There's the Fear of Success. This shows up when there is something that people fear, that they will get when they achieve what they want.?

For example, a woman trying to lose weight might secretly fear that her jealous husband is going to make her life a living hell if men starting looking at her once she's skinny.

On one hand she wants to lose weight so badly it hurts. On the other, the fear of his wrath is preventing her from being able to do it.

I once had a coaching client who wanted to create a successful business, but feared having to say no to all her needy relatives when she started making money. Her fear of that confrontation was leading to her self-sabotaging so that she never had to do it.?

On the flip side of the fear of success, is Secondary Gain.

So this is when somebody is actually gaining something from remaining in the state that they are, even though they are vehement they don't want to remain there.?

I did a call recently with a young lady about helping her overcome her anxiety. When I asked her what she ultimately wanted, it became clear that she didn't want to remove the anxiety completely. Just not be as badly affected by it.

The secondary gains she was getting from suffering with anxiety was that at school the teachers didn't force her to do things she didn't want to. She didn't have to stand up in front of the class or do things like that.

Plus, there was the fact that when she had anxiety attacks she was fussed over and taken up to the sick bay where somebody looked after her. This made her feel special.

She wasn't ready to let go of those secondary gains to live a life free from anxiety.

After secondary gains there is What's Not Allowed.

So what is not allowed to happen for you to get what you want. This is a barrier that you have in place that states, 'I can have what I want, IF I don't have to do this to get it!'

Maybe you're not allowed to hurt somebody. Maybe you're not allowed to make others feel inadequate.?

Imagine a drug addict who wants to go clean, but for them to do that, they need to leave the love of their life, who is also an addict.?

They are not in a state to be strong enough to walk away from possibly the only thing that they think is good in their life...

And not in a healthy enough place to realise that that relationship is probably not as good as they think.?

Right, I think you are starting to get the idea.

THERE ARE LOTS OF BOULDERS IN YOUR RIVER OF DESIRE.?

Most of them you don't even realise are there.

SO how can you tell if you are being blocked by these boulders?

Well, here are some of the things that clients say to me about how they feel when they have resistance:

I'm stuck and struggling

I feel like I'm going around in circles

I'm so frustrated with myself

I don't know why I can't make myself do it

I'm anxious all the time

I feel confused and overwhelmed

I just don't have the time to do anything?

I'm not sleeping well and I don't know why

I feel like the universe is blocking me

SO WHAT CAN YOU DO IF THIS IS HAPPENING TO YOU?

(And please don't feel embarrassed or ashamed or frustrated or anything negative at all towards yourself if it is. This happens to all of us, and it is not your fault!)

Well, you've probably already worked out that manifesting alone ain't going to cut it. You need more than that to get rid of the resistance keeping you stuck.

You need to be able to remove those boulders from that River of Desire.?

You need to be able to uncover those beliefs about yourself and the world that are no longer serving you, and are not in alignment with your purpose, so that you vanquish them for good.?

Now you can do this in several ways.

Cognitive therapy (talk therapy) can help. But often there are memories that are buried so deep in the unconscious mind that they are not able to be brought to the surface through talk therapy alone.

Tools like meditations can be useful. But by themselves they may never get you there.

Which is why I use a combination of hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and superconscious recoding when I work with clients.

These three are super powerful at accessing these foundational belief systems and then shifting them, so that you can finally start creating a life that you love.

A life where you are able to decide exactly where you want your River of Desire to go and then flow freely all the way there.

If you want to talk to me a little more about what I do, and how it can help you rewire your brain so that you can have the success within your life and your business that you want, jump on my calendar:?https://donnajoyusher.com/success-session

Have an amazing week,

In Your Corner

Donna Joy

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