Who's In Your Circle? Your Marriage Depends On It

There’s a saying, “You are the sum of who you surround yourself with.” And if you think about it, it’s true.

When kids get into trouble, it’s usually because they’re hanging out with the wrong crowd. We also pick up habits—good and bad—from our parents, siblings, and friends.

And in business? We seek out mentors, coaches, and successful peers to push us forward.

Are Healthy Marriages in Your Circle?

But what about marriage? Who do you surround yourself with that sets a great example of a thriving marriage?

This weekend, Kay Lee and I got to triple date with two power couples who live and breathe strong marriages:

?? Bill & Pam Farrel – Marriage speakers and authors of over 60+ books, including the best seller Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti.

?? Jerry & Delmy Portillo – Marriage and family therapist (Delmy) and Jerry are?continually?investing in their marriage and helping others succeed as well.?

It wasn’t even planned this way—we were just?planning to attend a Comedy Date Night put on by our friends Al and Letisha Perez of Marriage Well?and decided to invite the two couples since we always have a good time with them.

Next thing I know, as I'm finding the restaurant to eat at before the show, I'm thinking, "We're going to a Valentine's event with fun couples that eat, sleep, and breathe marriage."

We Sought Out Marriage Experts

How did we get here?

Our Thriving in Tandem podcast?is a big reason.

When we started the podcast in 2020, we sought out experts who could talk about doing marriage and business well. The Farrel's and the Perez's were one of our first guests which led to genuine friendships that continue to this day.

But you don’t need a podcast to do this.

Be like Bill & Pam—they didn’t come from healthy families, so they sought out a couple in their church who modeled the kind of marriage they wanted. They befriended them, learned from them, and changed their trajectory.

We Challenge You To Do The Same

Find a couple, a mentor, or a marriage coach who inspires you. Be intentional about who you spend time with because your marriage is worth it.

We can all do better. Start today.

Happy Valentine’s Season,

Robert Fukui

P.S. Need a place to start??Feel free to schedule a complimentary discovery call to pick our brains so you can Thrive in Tandem.

BIOGRAPHY: Robert and his wife Kay Lee run a consulting business that assists entrepreneur couples to create better balance in life and business. If you need a roadmap for greater work-life balance, buy their newly released book, Tandem: The married entrepreneurs' guide for greater work-life balance. Click here to purchase >>