Who’s Really in Control of Your Life?

Do you ever notice the conversations that take place within your own mind? You know, that persistent, internal voice that provides a constant background commentary to everything that’s going on around you? It’s a completely normal phenomenon and, most of the time, the dialogue proceeds automatically. It seems to be such a natural part of our mental processes that we don’t even notice it. But it’s always there. Commenting, observing, judging and reacting.

But the question we should ask ourselves is whether it’s really helping us?

This internal voice is so familiar that it often appears to be an authentic extension of our personalities. It usually sounds like our voice. It uses the same tones and expressions that we use. It creates the same emotional responses that we’re used to feeling. And yet, perhaps surprisingly, that’s exactly why it doesn’t always serve our best interests.

That’s because it usually responds with a range of distinctly negative emotions. It speaks in the language of fear, doubt, anger, guilt, anxiety and distorted judgement. And, whilst our internal voice has unlimited access to our attention and to our emotional response triggers, it absolutely should not be in control of our lives. But why is this important?

Everything is within your power,

and real your power is within you.

― Janice Trachtman

In some cultures, the internal voice is recognised as an obvious aspect of an insecure ego, an active part of our conditioned responses that fosters feelings of doubt and insecurity and feeds into our fears and anxieties. It reacts instantly and rarely gives us time to pause and consider what it’s communicating. In many ways, it exercises far too much influence in our lives.

The voice that we’re all so familiar with typically reacts with a range of negative emotions that rarely support our best interests. Yet, this is not the only voice that’s trying to get our attention. There is another voice within our consciousness that’s seldom heard. And this is a voice that truly deserves our attention. This is a voice that seems to originate from a different part of our consciousness. It’s a voice that offers a profoundly different set of responses from the first kind of voice. Because it’s the voice of objective reason.

Positive thinking is powerful thinking. If you want happiness, fulfillment, success and inner peace, start thinking you have the power to achieve those things. Focus on the bright side of life and expect positive results.

― Germany Kent

Two distinct voices. So, how can you tell them apart? The main difference between the two voices can be discerned initially in the level of volume they use. The first voice is invariably loud. It clamours noisily for our attention. Sometimes, it even seems to shout. The second voice is vastly more subtle. It speaks so quietly, you really have to learn to listen carefully to detect its whisper. That’s why most people remain blissfully unaware of its existence.

The first voice can also be identified because it’s always emotionally charged. The deeper voice is neutral. It avoids emotional engagement. It simply states the facts, clearly and objectively. It offers insights and analysis with complete neutrality.

So, if you were interested in tuning into your deeper powers of rational analysis, which voice do you think would be more useful to you?

Learn to master your thoughts and watch closely what you deposit into your spirit.

Speak over your life. Living in peace has transformative power.

― Germany Kent

It has been noted that the first voice sometimes sounds remarkably like an echo of a parent’s voice. It usually carries the weight of some kind of judgement, often reinforcing feelings of doubts, insecurity or unworthiness. And this is why it can be so harmful to our plans, our ambitions and our goals for a better life. This voice is not known for being supportive, nurturing, caring or empowering.

And how can we neutralise its effects? The answer is surprisingly easy. You simply ignore it. That’s right. Like any situation where you cease to listen to someone, they will reach a point – perhaps after speaking more loudly – when they realise that their efforts are futile. And then they stop talking. It’s the same with the first voice. When you stop listening and learn to ignore it, it will gradually go away. It might seem like an unbelievably simple approach to this problem but it works perfectly. And that’s when something unexpected and unusual shows up.

Once you clear out the clutter of your mind, the doorways for what you desire will open.

― Stephen Richards

As the louder voice becomes quieter, you begin to notice the whisper of your deeper, inner voice. Some may refer to this gentle whisper as the voice of your intuition. Whatever its origins, it seeks to impart useful and necessary information that can be of great value to you. It’s an excellent way to tune into your hidden analytical faculties. It’s as if there’s a part of your mind that is profoundly aware of everything that’s going on in your life – and it seeks to aid and assist you in the most practical ways possible. This is a guiding force that’s largely overlooked and ignored because of the constant and deeply distracting chatter that fills our every waking moment. It’s time to turn down the volume and tune into the beautiful whisper from deep within your consciousness that simply states the facts and shows you how to move forwards.

Having a positive attitude gives you the power to uplift, the power to create change, the power to motivate, the power to inspire, the power to influence, the power to cultivate happiness, and the list goes on.

― Lindsey Rietzsch

If you experience any doubts about which voice you should be listening to, it has often been observed that if the voice sounds like one of your parents telling you to tidy up your bedroom, it’s probably your ego trying to keep you off balance. When the much quieter and completely non-judgemental voice communicates, it doesn’t convey any sense of guilt, shame or judgement. Learn to listen to your deeper, quieter voice and tune into the vast array of resources that could be working to help and support you every single day.

In many ways, your superficial voice is emblematic of the conscious mind’s limited ability to direct your life. Get in touch with your deeper resources to bring an extraordinarily powerful set of insights and analysis into play on behalf of your success and wellbeing. It could be the key to changing your life in more ways than you imagine.

The fires that burn deep within our hearts, fueling our deepest loves are indestructible. The power of the human spirit surpasses even death and life.

― Sara Niles

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