The Whole World Can't Be Wrong

*This is not a political post. And if you read it as such, you have missed the point. Please no political comments.?

I had the rare evening off the other day. I turned on the the TV and the Jan 6th hearings were going on. As I was watching, I couldn't help but think that Trump just doesn't get it. This is not a political?post. This is an observation that I made as I continued to watch these hearings over the course of the following days.?

Mr. Trump lost an election. But prior, his staff started resigning in record numbers. Shortly after the election, his family. friends and counsel told him that he lost. He then filed 62 court cases, and lost all but one of them. Ironically, many of the judges that he appointed, ruled against him. And the list continues to grow, he still doesn't get it. The whole world can't be wrong. And that's exactly what I am talking about.

I am reminded of the many times when a client comes into my office and they don't get it. I see this a lot in the field of addiction. I've had clients say that their family and friends no longer talk to them. Their behavior has driven a wedge between them. But that's not the problem. That's just conflict. But when they go on to say that they have lost their job, house and savings too, well...they just don't get it. The whole world can't be wrong. Maybe it's time to look at yourself.?

There has been a time or two in my life when I didn't get it. And despite my inner circle trying their best to talk sense into me, I struck out on my own. It ended disastrously.?Why? Because I wasn't ready to listen {to the people who loved me the most}, or perhaps it was ego. Whatever the reason, I lost a lot, and even damaged some relationships.??

Like Mr. Trump, the addict and even myself, we got it wrong. Terribly wrong. I am a free thinker by nature. I often go against the crowd. But as I have gotten older and matured, I realized that the whole world can't be wrong. If I lost 61 of 62 court cases, yeah I know I would get it. If I lost my family, friends, home and job, I would get it. Sometimes it takes a minute to recognize that we're wrong or toxic. But when we lose, lose and lose?again, we have to consider that it is us. And there is no shame in taking a loss. Only when we refuse to accept that loss. Because the whole world can't be wrong.?