Be Who You Want to Be, Not Who They Expect You to Be

This picture is from the last time I saw my Nana in person. Growing up, she was my rock, support, and guide, though I didn’t realize it then. Our bond grew stronger over the years – from holidays at Butlin’s and Blackpool to Friday nights of fish and chips, watching all the soaps together. I’d wear one of my grandad's t-shirts as pyjamas, and we’d spend hours listening to her records – Frank Sinatra, Patsy Cline, even Robbie Williams – talking and doing puzzles. ????

The Lessons of Kindness

From my Nana, I learned kindness. She always said, "Treat others how they want to be treated, not how you want to treat them." That wisdom has stayed with me throughout my life. ??

When I decided to move to Australia, she told me, "Follow your heart and let it be your guide on your journey." I didn't know when or if I’d ever come back to England, but those words became my mantra. I made sure to call my Nana every week throughout my travels in Australia, Asia, and now Sweden. ?? Not being able to do that anymore leaves a hole in my heart, but I know it’s my responsibility to carry her message forward and live life on my terms for me and my family.

The Evolution of My Identity

My journey has been full of growth, mistakes, and self-exploration. Changing my name was part of that evolution. Everyone knew me as Spencer, and very few called me Richard. When my wife and I got married, we wanted to create a new story – a rebrand, if you like, of who we wanted to become. That’s when my wife suggested my Nana’s name, "Littlewood." ??

She had such an influence on me, and it felt right to honour her legacy. So, I became Spencer Littlewood, not to forget who I was, but to embrace who I am becoming. It’s about evolving on my own terms and building something meaningful.

Facing Criticism and Staying True to Myself

But it hasn't been an easy journey. I’ve faced a lot of criticism and hate for my decisions. Some people have been upset, even hurtful, about the changes I’ve made. It’s tough to hear the negativity, and at times, it’s been incredibly upsetting. Even now, I know there are people out there laughing or talking at my expense. And while it’s not okay and something we need to address, I’m now in a place where I can stand strong with my principles and morals. ??

Those experiences have taught me that people will always have opinions about your life. Some will support you, and others will try to bring you down. But I’ve learned to be comfortable in my skin and not let those opinions dictate my path. I’m vulnerable yet strong enough to know where I’m going and what I want to do. No one will stand in the way of that.

So again, I’m here to tell you: Be who you want to be, not who they expect you to be. ?? Make decisions for yourself, no matter what people say. Keep evolving on your terms, and embrace the journey that you’re on.

Until next time, keep embracing your journey.

Spencer Littlewood Founder and CEO of The Sub Leader & Co-Founder of The Journey of an Entrepreneur Events

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