Who is Single at Heart ?

Bonjour Mon Cheri…..

She had a fabulous relationship with a man she had been seeing for years, but she sees herself as a free spirit and sometimes wonders if she is "just not meant to be in a relationship. Single is no longer a lack of options - but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily.

Practitioners of Singlism like to claim that happy single people are just deluding themselves; they know they are actually losers who can't "find anyone" and so they dceive themselves into believing that they really want to be single, and then they try to persuade others, too. Can't say that about SUDITY .. She adores the man she is thinking of marrying, even saying, "My heart still flutters when I am around him. It's perfect. Really." She has been in a serious romantic romantic relationship with her boyfriend for years..

So is SUDITY single at heart? We did not discuss that directly, and actually, I don't think that's the most important issue. What I wanted to do was to get the idea of single at heart out there. Think of all the conversations we have in our media, in national debates and discussions, and in our everyday lives, about things like marriage and coupling and finding "The One."

Where are our discussions of people who embrace single life?

Where are the role models who get media attention?

Mostly they are missing. No wonder Sudity  can think fondly about single life and wonder if there is something wrong with her.

Why we need to chose between savoring solitude and enjoying sociability?.

One of the true joys of single life is pursuing just the right mix of solitude and sociability that is optimal.. Theoretically, you should be able to do that if you are married (or in a serious romantic relationship), too.

 But, I think, it is harder if you are married. That's not because of the inherent nature of marriage – marriage practices change all the time  . But in contemporary European society, many couples practice what I call "intensive coupling."

Some of them (not all) really do want to be each other's everything. If one person wants to spend time alone or with friends or family, there is a risk that the other will take that as an affront. There is some evidence that coupling is now becoming a bit less intensive, but it is still a different experience than it was decades ago when each person expected to spend time away from the other.

It is complicated for Sudity  because she is already in a serious long-term romantic relationship, and she has never discussed her longing for alone-time with her partner. She worries that if she broaches the topic, her partner will take it the wrong way .

Looking toward the future, I want the single – at- heart option to be one that gets known and discussed. I want it to be so familiar that discussing single-at-heart longings would be a totally natural thing to do early on in a romantic relationship.

Mostly, I would like people who feel positively about living single to never, ever wonder if they are "normal"!

When we find anything so easy its value decreases.Proverb is “ghar ki murgi daal barabar”. you are lucky to get good, caring and loving family.Many persons strive for love, care, etc.

Perhaps you are feeling such due to some unfulfilled dreams. Share these with your life partner and come to a solution. It may either a good and acceptable to you or may be compromising to some extent.

Try to be happy and involved in caring for family, it will help you come out of such thoughts.

Remember, 1 & 1 makes 11, even a valueless digit 0 increases the value 10 times if used properly. So, in spite of thinking of being single, think of fulfilling your dreams with help of family and vice versa. You will certainly feel happy & lucky.

Is your GIRL FRIEND  too much caring?

 Too much loving?

Are you not getting any personal space because of her excessive attention ?. Is she insecure because of any previous bad experiences of her life, because  she is full of fear of loosing you,.

And she has taken your freedom because you are the one who has taken her freedom first .

Is she financially independent ? I believe that she does not have a career of her own.What I would like to suggest is, help her start her career.

Your spouse should also be your friend and a buddy.

Relations do not stop by lack of love but lack of friendship. Relation and love relies on effort and time. Not just feeling and luck.

Your thoughts on this article …………………?

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Thank you --Think nicely what all she has sacrificed for you,