Who does all of the initiating in your relationship?

Healthy relationships are about equal exchange.

If one of you is always the one who is initiating the conversations, the intimacy, the messages, the social arrangements, the managing of day to day logistics, the parenting of the kids, the arrangements for dinner then you need to stop today and re-evaluate the priorities and attention in your relationship.

If you're the initiator...?

• Is it because you're not asking for support?
• Does your partner think you like taking the lead so they don't need to try?
• Is it because your partner is unconscious and simply doesn't show up?
• If so, have you spoken to them about how their behaviour isn't working for you?

If they're the initiator...

• Have you asked them if they need support?
• Are you assuming they're OK always doing it so you don't need to get involved?
• Are you taking your partner for granted and not paying attention to their needs?
• When is the last time you both sat down and discussed how you're both feeling about everything?

Don’t be so focused on your work and career that you partner is left getting the scraps of your attention at the end of each day. Be conscious, every week, of the state of your relationship and pay attention to where you are both at.

Emotions and needs change daily, just because you or your partner have always done the initiating in the past doesn't mean you're still in that place. It might be necessary to talk about shifting the dynamic of responsibilities together.?

One sided relationships breed massive resentment. Don't let this be you.

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