Who do you choose to be?

Do you recognize having dreams, wishes, wanting things to change but not getting there? Sounds familiar? For me it was.

Looking around me what needed to change. Maybe following another education, reading another book… several things I thought I needed to get to my dreams but only led to postponing. Thinking I first had to have some kind of result before I could go for my dreams.

The last three years I learned to see it in a different way. I got aware that I was postponing my dreams out of my fears, my insecurities. I saw that my fears of failing or not feeling good enough led my life and cut my wings. That my dreams would stay dreams if I would continue doing this. I learned to see that only me was the one responsible for my path of growth. Not the things around me. The key for change was in me!

That insight gave me a whole other perspective.

If I wanted other results, I needed to take a look at me! Because if I would be and act the same way I always did, my results would stay the same and my dreams would stay dreams. I had to dive deep in my own system! Because the solution was in my own hands. And yes that was very confronting and challenging some times! My system was the system I knew , it was my comfort zone. And let us be honest.. to take steps outside your comfort zone feels like taking a risk. As soon as you try something new, you most likely feel some kind of resistance. But besides it was confronting, it also gives me energy to see that the solutions were closer that I thought!

Who do I need to be to chaise and realize my dreams? Who do I choose to be…

That is what transformative coaching is all about! It’s all about your personal goals and dreams in transformational coaching. Together with your coach you dive deep in your system. To look below the surface. Looking for your patterns, your beliefs, your interpretations, your emotions about who you are. And guide you to see if these patterns, beliefs and interpretations are helpful or limiting you in any way to get to your goals.

It’s about opening up all the opportunities that are already in you! Focusing on who you are and your desires to become. To look at what is necessary to uncover what is needed to get to your goals. To expand and shift your way of being. A transformative coach will challenge you and be there with you.

From a coachee this requires the willingness to look below the surface. To face their fears, emotions, beliefs and interpretations that are part of the patterns that is holding them from their goals. The willingness to be honest with themselves and take a deep look in the mirror. In order to become free! Change will happen in the mind of the coachee, in his or her system. And when a person grows at this level , this creates the opportunity to shift the doing part. To shift behaviors, choices and emotions. To change the results.

A transformative coach will guide you during this journey. A transformative coach will challenge you and confront you in order to support you making the shift that is needed to get to your goals. To take responsibility for the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. To support to make your wings big again and fly again! And will look together with you to the main question:

“Who do you need to be in order to your goals or dreams to become a reality? Who do you choose to be?

Are you having dreams & goals that seemed to be unreachable? I hope I inspired you with this blog that those dreams & goals are more near than you might thought they were!

If you want some support during this process, than contact me!

Good luck and hope to see you soon!

Mari?lle Bakhuizen

Transformative coach