Who is to Blame? Unseen Pressure: Beyond Grades and Bookworms
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Who is to Blame? Unseen Pressure: Beyond Grades and Bookworms

In the bustling cities and towns of India, a relentless race unfolds as the board exams for classes ten and twelve approach. The pursuit of high grades and the desire to shape bookworms are fervently encouraged by some parents, unintentionally exerting immense pressure on other families. This practice, though well-intentioned, can have devastating consequences. In this narrative, we delve into the lives of various children across India, listening to their voices, and shedding light on the dark shadows cast by the prevailing obsession with grades.

Scene 1: The Weight of Expectations

Sitting in her dimly lit room, tears welling up in her eyes, Ria shares her story. "My parents expect me to be a top scorer. They compare me to my classmates and relatives, emphasizing the importance of grades above all else. It feels like my worth is determined solely by my academic performance."

Scene 2: The Race for Perfection

In a bustling city, Varun takes a deep breath before sharing his thoughts. "Every day, I feel the weight of expectations on my shoulders. My parents believe that achieving high grades guarantees a successful future. It's as if my entire life depends on these exams, but I don't want to be reduced to just a scorecard."

Scene 3: The Silent Struggles

Deepika, a bright and cheerful girl, silently battles her inner demons. "I used to love learning, but now it feels like a constant race against time. The pressure to excel is suffocating. I find myself questioning my worth whenever I stumble, afraid that I'll disappoint my parents."

Scene 4: The Price of Success

Rahul, with a heavy heart, recounts his experience. "My parents push me relentlessly, expecting perfection. The fear of failure consumes me. I can't sleep, and anxiety grips me, suffocating my dreams. Sometimes, I wonder if it's all worth it."

Scene 5: The Dark Shadows

The haunting story of Karishma emerges. Her voice trembling, she reveals, "I saw my best friend, Aman, buckle under the pressure. The constant comparison, the overwhelming expectations—it all became too much for him. He took his own life, leaving us shattered, questioning the price we pay for grades."

Scene 6: Embracing a Different Path

A glimmer of hope emerges through the voice of Ayesha. "After a long struggle, I convinced my parents that happiness and well-being matter more than grades. They finally understood that knowledge and personal growth define success. Today, I'm pursuing my passion, and I couldn't be happier."

TAKE AWAYS

The stories of Ria, Varun, Deepika, Rahul, Karishma, and Ayesha are not isolated incidents. They represent the silent struggles faced by countless children in India's education system. It is time to reflect on the unintended consequences of creating a generation solely focused on grades. The pursuit of knowledge, creativity, and personal growth should take precedence over the pressure of being a bookworm or a grade earner.

In this narrative, we've witnessed the chilling effects that this obsession can have, pushing some children to the brink of despair. Are we doing this? Or is the peer pressure making us do this to our own and beyond? We need to have THE THINK POT inside to analyse the same. The mirror is the best judge, isn't it?

Let us embrace a future where holistic education, well-being, and happiness are valued above arbitrary measures of success. It's time to remind ourselves that a bright and cheerful future is not defined by grades alone but by the knowledge, curiosity, and joy that our children possess.

Anu Mittal

Image consultant | Stylist | Fashion writer

1 年

If parents start accepting the fact that every child is different, it might eliminate thier desire to be at the top of the game. If I look back into my schooling days, the mediocre students (as branded by the grades they scored) are doing pretty well. The soul path of each child is different, and as parents we should help them unlock same. As a parent I am not anti-discipline, so being a little assertive towards your child is not bad, as it will inculcate discipline in life, which will surely help them in later life. Teach your kids to be passionate towards their goals, and to avoid short cuts. In the age of AI and metaverse, as a parent we don't know which trait of our child will later help them navigate into a secure future. So keeping a balance can be a good approach. Along with academics, let your child's imagination also go into free flow mode. In a AI dominated world, soft skills and a fertile mind will act a saviour, &academics alone will not help.

Anshu Bhatia

Project Manager :Communications & Initiatives at GurgaonMoms

1 年

If feel a child is much more than the marks, grades, ranks.... Hope all parents realise it I hope all educational institutions realise it and stop the competition and the rat race!!! Don't make children feel inferior by boasting about the marks of the 'Toppers' Stop asking parents and kids about the marks they have scored!! Stop being judgemental about those who haven't made it to the toppers list It is more imperative for the young generation to become better human beings...and not someone with a great academic record and poor life skills and ethics As a parent of a teenager who has cleared her Grade X boards .. I am happy that she put her best effort and has now chosen her stream as per her choice and interest and not because I want her to pursue a certain career. I believe and trust her completely and I know she will willfully follow my advice & guidance and build a decent career for herself.. Be independent and most importantly be a good and humane person Give your children the chance to live their life and not be burdened by the pressures around!!! They all are working hard and doing their best Give your children the right to choose and be happy .

Maryada Sharma

Associate Professor at Otolaryngology HNS, PGIMER # Massachusetts Eye and Ear Infirmary# Harvard Medical School alumnus# neurosensory regeneration # infectious disease modeling # neurocristopathies#reversing fibrosis

1 年

Actually late in life have I realised that all we grasped through school text books was only teaching us to imbibe the importance of hard work and sincerity. There is no single basic science concept grasped at that point of time has stayed to this age. However, the discipline and perseverance taught during school time is the biggest lesson learned. Rest for thd science part, I am still learning everyday. I believe schools and the course works should be religiously perceived and enjoyed without any pressure, as we enjoy any other fun activity. This will best construct the kids to sculpt a wholesome future .

Sameera Satija

Founder 'Crockery Bank For Everyone', Sustainability Consultant 'Astitva Trust' Mentoring Communities to produce Natural Products and set up small scale unit Sustainability Practitioner/Speaker Core Upcycler

1 年

Good read and i wish some ambitious parents will get the clue that how their children feel about them. In the pursuit of acheivements, we are forgetting the pursuit of happiness. We come on this earth for a very short period and then loose the time is achieving superficial things whereas the motto should be to pursue your passion and feel happy and contended.

Irfat H.

Marketing & Outreach Lead (Founder’s Office)| Driving Financial Independence through Mahila Money

1 年

This is really very nice

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