White Tears Part II: Black Education Leaders Share Alternate Ways to View What Happens When White Women Cry in Schools

Being in urban education is hard work.?Some might say that being an education leader in an urban environment is even harder work.?To further emphasize this reality, the Hechinger Report highlights the locus of responsibility for teachers and school leaders:

A?2009 study ?by?New Leaders for New Schools ?found that more than half of a school’s impact on student gains can be attributed to both principal and teacher effectiveness – with principals accounting for 25 percent and teachers 33 percent of the effect.

That can feel like a lot of pressure to teachers and education leaders, can’t it??But it is a lot of opportunity too.?Opportunity to learn and to teach; leadership at its best is a reciprocal relationship.?So, yes, it’s hard work.?And being a leader in urban education that leads, manages, coaches, and mentors in a culturally proficient way is even more challenging. But it can be done. To be clear,?urban school leadership isn’t all doom and gloom.?

In the article,?Black Educators Share Their Thoughts on What Happens When White Women Cry in Schools , five African Americans shared their thoughts on their experience with white tears.?Since this original article, a number of readers expressed interest in hearing from other perspectives, to see how folks are working through the impact of white tears in their schools and to hear the root cause of what is leading to these tears.

As such, the?purpose of this article?is:

• To?share the perspective?of a few Black leaders working in urban education on a particular instance of white tears in an urban school
• To?offer commentary?(aligned with the following culturally responsive outcomes) as an example of considerations to help us better apply cultural proficiency in how we lead, manage, coach, and mentor:

The Situation

A Black veteran teacher at an urban school talked about a time when there was a fight at her school.?She and several other Black teachers were able to break up the fight and get the girls to calm down.?Half an hour later, a student went into the room of a white female teacher (there were less than 10 students in the room) and punched another student in the face.?According to the Black veteran teacher, the white female teacher was shaken and was?

…crying, crying, crying.?The principal sent her home.?Not once did they ask if I was ok or if the Black female teachers were ok.?There was just the assumption that we were…I said to my principal that this offer to go home was not extended to the other teachers and those other teachers are teachers of color…He went to talk to the other teachers, and they expressed that they thought staying was the right thing to do but were not offered to go home or even have some time to regroup…[white women] are held to a different standard, one that I am not held to.

There are certainly a couple of ways to look at this situation:

Perspective 1:

• Some school leaders would only send individual teachers home rather offer to send a group home.?So, it is?logical to not offer all staff a release?for the day.
• It makes sense to treat different people differently, students and staff alike.??Some people are stronger than others, and people advocate differently for themselves, which may result in a different outcome.
• It can be disruptive for students to be exposed to staff that are crying.?As such, removing the person that is?crying minimizes distractions in school.

Perspective 2:

• The issue was that her?white tears afforded her the luxury?of asking to go home (or being asked if she wanted to go home) and to be granted her request.
• The?Black teachers felt overlooked?(again), saying they don’t cry partly because they don’t think they’d get the support.
• Leaders can be consciously or unconsciously reinforcing a message that one person is more valued than another, in this case?white is more valued than Black.?

There are also some questions to consider when thinking of the?impact on students and families:

• To what degree does the treatment of Black staff in urban schools with a majority Black student population?translate into individual and collective school-wide mindset and practices with Black students and families in urban schools?
• What can we learn from Black staff experiences with white tears that can help us to have more empathy with Black students and families and thereby?provide services, support, and instruction that are more aligned to the needs of Black students and families in urban schools?

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A Culturally Responsive Analysis

Cultural Competence:?What is my history and the history of those around me???In the spirit of?constructivism ?and?differentiation , it makes sense to adjust our approach with varying individuals, audiences, and groups.?It is also important to consider when that adjustment undermines the very message that we are attempting to convey, especially as we work toward social justice with students, parents, and staff???One article expressed that

As I see it, social justice requires resource equity, fairness, and respect for diversity, as well as the eradication of existing forms of social oppression. Social justice entails a “redistribution” of resources from those who have “unjustly” gained them to those who justly deserve them…

In the example shared by the Black teacher,?one way to redistribute resources?would have been to ask the teachers, least likely to be asked, what they needed and to then to grant their request.?Additionally, one might see the?Black teachers as being oppressed?by the principal (not being asked if they wanted to go home, especially after being physically involved in the fight) and also by their own thinking (expressing that staying seemed to be the right thing and for not asking to go home).?

Full stop: it is important to note that?the way we define “right thing” matters?and is riddled with complexity.??

• Was it right?for the Black teachers to stay because they did not want to shift the focus to themselves?
• Would it have been?even more right?for the Black teachers to ask to leave given that they broke up the fight and may have experienced emotional distress?
• Was it right?for the white female teacher to advocate for herself and leave for the day, thus engaging in a kind of self care?
• Would it have been?even more right?for the white female teacher to refuse to leave as a commitment to students and solidarity with other staff who stayed?
• Was it right?for the white principal to allow the white teacher to leave given that she seemed particularly fragile in this instance?
• Would it have been?even more right?for the white principal to maintain the same expectations for all staff?

Impact on students:

• Most importantly,?which of these “rights” and “even more rights” align with best identifying and meeting the needs of Black students and families???
• How often are we?asking ourselves this question,?prior to making management, leadership, and coaching decisions in urban schools??
• How are we?confirming that the decision we ultimately make?meets the needs of Black students and families?

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The Situation (continued)

One could easily say, “Maybe the white teacher asked to go home.”?And that could very well be true.?If that is the case, how could the principal have responded if the white teacher made the request??He could have coached her on the importance of considering racial and gender bias when making personnel decisions and then made a decision that “redistributed” privilege, especially given the school’s ongoing professional development on white privilege.??

Impact on students:?This redistribution could have then been the foundation for a coaching conversation with the teacher on ways to consciously and publically redistribute privilege in the classroom.

The real issue isn’t that principals send people home.??It’s the why, the who, the message it sends and reinforces, and who consistently benefits from the decision.?

To be clear, in this country, white is more valued. Period.??It’s why some people feel like they can make a request and why others don’t.?As such,?how we are consciously leading, managing, coaching, and mentoring?with these considerations in mind??How are we ensuring that?Black students and families?benefit?the most from how we consciously lead, manage, coach, and mentor in urban schools?

On the other hand, some leaders want?Black folks to ask directly for what they need?and to not complain that someone else does. For some leaders, there is an?expectation that Black teachers help to dismantle?white privilege by self-advocating directly and unequivocally for what they believe is justice. That’s where the courage comes in.?And yes, there may be backlash.?

A school leader helping Black teachers to support dismantling white privilege is ideally as explicit, conscious, and public as the conversation the school leader has with the white female on redistribution privilege.?Black teachers, in many ways, represent their students ethnically.?This is not to say all Black people are the same just as all women are not the same.?This is to say that the glass ceilings, for example, that Black staff experience in housing, employment, financial planning, etc. are likely similar to the ones Black students and families may face when those ceilings are imposed primarily because of race.?The major difference is that Black staff who are college educated have education privilege.?As such, the ceiling may be lower for those without this privilege.??

Impact on students:?Supporting Black staff to dismantle white privelege and making a conscious and public connection from the power of Black staff self-advocacy to that of Black students can be a way to help Black staff recognize their impact and also create opportunities for students to see the real-world implications of the importance of student voice and power.

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A Culturally Responsive Analysis

Community Activism: How do I act as an individual and as a collective for social change???

In the paper?Of Smog and Moving Walkways ,?we see a snapshot of how breathing in the smog of racism impacts all of us, even the?African Americans we expect to help dismantle.??Beverly Tatum shares

To say that it is not our fault does not relieve us of responsibility. However, we may not have polluted the air, but we need to?take responsibility, along with others, for cleaning it up. Each of us needs to look at our own behavior. Am I perpetuating and reinforcing the negative messages so pervasive in our culture, or am I seeking to challenge them?

White tears, and the way we respond to white tears, perpetuate and reinforce.?So does?Black silenceand the way we respond to Black silence.

Is it fair to expect Black teachers to help dismantle white privilege??Possibly yes.?And?maybe fair isn’t the right word.?But the legacy of Ella Baker, Dr. King, Shirley Chisholm, Malcolm X, Fannie Lou Hamer, Medgar Evers, and Septima Clark certainly suggests that Black staff have the right, responsibility, and the heritage to help dismantle.??

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The Situation (continued)

One Black education leader expressed the?frustration that Black people are expected to advocate for themselves?when their white, often female, counterparts are advocated for.?This leader expressed that it is exhausting to work in urban education and that it can feel even more impossible when Black staff are expected to fulfill the job description of their designated role AND continuously advocate for themselves in spaces that communicate their Black acquiescence is preferred.?Because we understand?how racial privilege works,?it’s clear (to some degree) why?Black folks suffer in silence.??Even in expecting Black staff to help dismantle, there is a larger question.??As managers, leaders, coaches, and mentors are we doing our part to open the door so that Black people, who have historically seen evidence that it is desirable for them to be silent, feel comfortable speaking up?

Impact on students:?For many students, when they graduate from urban high schools and navigate to predominantly white colleges and universities,?their experiences mirror those of the Black staff who suffer in silence in urban schools.?For those students who don’t attend a majority white college or university, there may be a different kinds of privilege at play– positional privilege when speaking with an advisor, gender privilege for the Black girl majoring in engineering, religious privilege for the Muslim student attending a school with a majority Christian population.?Do we see the opportunity that exists in exploring what happens with Black staff and white tears in urban schools as a way to help understand the Black experience and therefore better prepare Black students for the world they will face after their k-12 school experience?

And if we are doing our part,?are we doing enough???More importantly, what is the evidence confirming how we (education leaders) evaluate the degree to which we are doing enough??In other words, it is not enough to say that we believe in diversity and to say we are working to level the playing field.?Without confirmation from the folks we endeavor to uplift (Black students and families and all who represent them), we cannot be sure that we are doing enough to actively dismantle white privilege.

A Reflection

All of this can feel like a philosophical tug-of-war.?Sort of like?Dr. King and Malcolm X .?Or maybe like?Booker T. Washington and W.E.B Dubois.

There is certainly validity in Black leaders thinking that they have a?responsibility to advocate for African Americans?more.?The unfortunate caveat is that in focusing on work with African Americans, white staff may view this advocacy as favoritism, and thereby the Black leader may face additional challenges in already demanding work.?Because white staff, particularly white women, are the majority in urban schools, and because the white voice is valued more, these challenges can seemingly feel as if they are multiplied and then magnified.?

Let’s imagine that the leader in the situation described at the beginning of this article is aware of white privilege at play and invites Black staff to share what they need after the fight between students.?This advocacy for Black staff may seem to be a way of?lowering the bar for Black staff; it could be a way of excusing them from advocating for themselves.?Additionally, if the leader thinks about what is happening to the Black staff, he or she can miss noticing how the white female is experiencing things, which could lead to the multiplier and magnifier effect.?On the other hand, advocating for white staff can communicate the same message and can give leaders a reason to not notice what is happing with Black staff.?One of the most challenging elements in this for some leaders is that they believe that?schools should be examples of social justice?for children and for adults who share the race and class of their students because if schools can somehow elevate the perspectives of the unheard voices on staff, they may be more likely to do the same for students and families.?

So, why are some Black staff less likely to emote publically??One Black leader shared that their work life is not the most challenging part of their lives.?Another leader expressed that at times she finds herself feeling more angry than anything else but that?Black anger is not welcomed in the workplace?and is seen as unprofessional, resulting in discipline rather than empathy from supervisors.?

Some Black leaders say that it is?challenging to find a culturally proficient mentor, someone who will assume the best of them and invest time and resources to develop them.?Furthermore, because so many education leaders are white, it is?easier for white people to find same race mentors, coaches, and managers.?This mentorship increases the likelihood that the leader will be empathetic to the needs of the mentee, thus making it more likely that the leader will respond to mentee’s needs/requests and to advocate for them.?

Some Solutions

To enact the following ideas with fidelity, first, assume that anyone who works in urban education is doing social justice work, not just for students, but for anyone whose race and class match that of the student body, really for anyone who is part of an oppressed group.?It is the notion of?

…equity, fairness, and respect for diversity, as well as the eradication of existing forms of social oppression. Social justice entails a “redistribution” of resources from those who have “unjustly” gained them to those who justly deserve them…

Remember these questions to consider:

• To what degree does the treatment of Black staff in urban schools with a majority Black student population?translate into individual and school-wide mindset and practices with Black students and families in urban schools?
• What can we learn from Black staff’s experience with white tears that can help us to have more empathy with Black students and families and thereby?provide services, support, and instruction that are more aligned to the needs of Black students and families in urban schools?

As such, these solutions involve a redistribution of resources from those who have unjustly gained them to those who justly deserve them.

1. Think about your?biases and blindspots.?If you are a?leader of color, ask yourself the degree to which you are operating from a lens of?internalized racism .??If you are?white, ask yourself the degree to which you are operating from a lens of?racism .?(I say “the degree to which” because we have all been influenced by the smog of racism.?Simply asking a yes or no question–“do you have racist practices/practices that reflect internalized racism”– does not capture the complexity of racism and internalized racism.)??As an education leader,?when making decisions, specifically those that involve audiences of varying race and class, ask yourself the following questions:

• Cultural Competence:??What is my history and the history of those around me? Our history matters.?It comprises all of the?implicit and explicit lessons we have internalized.?Understanding our own history and the history of oppressed groups is essential to understanding the degree to which we are led by internalized racism or racism.?It helps us to empathize more deeply with those who are oppressed and to see more objectively the ways in which we act as the oppressor.??Impact on students:?Then ask, how might this oppression be impacting Black students and families directly or indirectly??For example, in something such as hiring practices, are you creating a space for students and parents to select staff???
• Critical Consciousness:?What is?structural inequality ?and?oppression , and how have I contributed to it with Black staff, students, and families because of my mindset, habits, fears??Knowing what these two elements are is crucial because it helps folks with power see how?the individual can be an agent of institutional oppression.??
• Healing Practices:?How do I bring restoration to those who have been oppressed, even when I am the person who has caused harm? How do I achieve my own restoration??The first step is to acknowledge that restoration is needed.??Restoration can take many forms:?mending a broken relationship, engaging in prayer or meditation, yoga, journaling, advocating for someone else, apologizing and changing.

1. As a person of color,?when thinking about whether or not to advocate for yourself, particularly in??situations when you think you are being oppressed, ask yourself the following questions

• Community Activism:?How do I act as an individual and as part of a collective for social change???Impact on students:?There is an opportunity to ensure that staff actions?translate into empowering Black student and families even as Black staff empower themselves.?As people of color, it can be hard to participate in one’s own liberation when we are sometimes just wanting to go to work and be treated fairly.??Collective strength?can be the thing that buoys us when individual strength falters and helps us to remember the responsibility we have to advocate for others’ liberation even as we fight for our own.?So, if you are too tired to advocate, do it with someone else and remember the lessons we learn to apply as adults we can more readily teach the children.
• Healing Practices:?How do I achieve my own restoration??The notes from #1 (above) for Healing Practices apply here as well.?But for people of color,?doing them with other people of color?can be helpful if you are seeking a sense of collective work and identity.?For students, teaching and modeling habits of healing (e.g., circles, journal writing, meditation, mindfulness training, breath exercises) for part of a school day or part of a class lesson can truly be transformational.

1. When?mentoring Black staff in predominantly white schools, consider both the cost and the benefit.??Impact on students:?Consider that when Black children see individuals who share their race being promoted and assuming leadership,?they are more likely to belief the same outcome is possible for them.??Also consider the cost you may pay with white?staff.?Minimize this cost by openly sharing that your philosophy as an education leader is to purposefully mentor and coach staff whose race and identity match the student and parent body.?Then, prepare to spend?extra efforts to develop relationships with white staff or to simply endure potential accusations of favoritism.