Where are you falling short in your dating process?

Fall is here and we're back in the swing of things. And this is the time singles are putting more attention into dating again. That's a good thing.

As a relationship and dating expert for over 16 years, I have developed a process that has been proven time and time again.

What I've noticed with each of my clients is there are specific steps in the dating process where they've been coming up short! My first job is to evaluate what my clients are doing and what they're aren't doing. Then I can help them have success with meeting that special person by teaching them what they can be doing to improve their chances of finding true love.

Curious about how you may be falling short with your dating efforts?

Here's the dating process I recommend you follow:

Step 1: Get out and meet new people for dating.

If you're not trying new things to meet people, then you're falling short. Doing the same old thing won't help you find someone new to date.

I help my clients find places where they will meet quality people they'll click with. Do you know?where the seriously searching singles are?

• If you're not dating online, you're missing out. Given that 80% of my successfully coupled clients met online (this is consistent year after year), not trying online dating is a real lost opportunity.
• If you're online and not meeting the right kind of quality person, it's time to ask yourself, "Why not?" because that's where seriously searching singles go when they want to meet a life partner! Learning how to identify those who are truly motivated may be the missing piece in your dating process.
• If you're not asking your friends and family to support you in your search, you're missing out. Everyone knows a single person. And if you're asking, it may be a case of?how you're asking!?That's the difference between success and frustration.

Step 2: Not know how to qualify people as the right one!

• Many of my clients are utilizing the wrong information to evaluate someone as the one. We tweak how you're evaluating people and you'll gain greater clarity on how to identify seriously searching singles who are a good fit for you. (Yes, I know you have to be attracted to someone!)
• Are you cutting out good potential partners too soon? Actually, this was on of my issues. I was too judgey and I was often wrong with my assumptions. You must be open and ready for the right person when they show up. Part of the coaching I do with my clients is helping them to be ready when that person does show up.
• If you're not following up in a timely manner, then this is a place you can improve. Many people don't want to seem needy so they hesitate to follow up. With the right person, you don't have to play games. My husband asked me out on our first date for a subsequent date. He was interested and motivated! I appreciated him showing interest and being proactive.

Step 3: Solidifying the relationship to last for the long haul.

• Some people are great at dating and horrible at creating a lasting relationship. Do you avoid asking for what you need? Do you walk on eggshells? If so, that's not a good sign. You need to feel comfortable with asking for what you need from a relationship. (Knowing how to do this at the onset of a relationship is critical.)
• If you're not aligning your expectations with you partner, you're not setting yourself up for a successful relationship. If you're making assumptions and not checking them out, your budding relationship will suffer. Consider why your last relationship broke up. This may be the reason. Were you expecting something from your partner and they disappointed you?
• If you're not getting the support of an expert to help you get on the right path, you're missing out on an important resource for relationship success. My coach helped my husband and me have a deeper understanding of how we interact. This has helped us when we have misunderstandings. These couples' skills are critical so you have the tools to handle stuff when things get a bit rocky. (All couples have disagreements. It's how you handle them that will determine your longevity.)

If you want to see where you fall short in the Motivated to Marry dating process, I recommend you?take this quiz?and see how you fair.

There's a body of knowledge that will improve your chances for having a successful, long-term relationship. This is your insurance policy.

I invite you to join my Meet Your Mate This Year coaching group, so you don't miss a beat with dating.?Your time is too precious to waste. Are you going to continue to make any of these dating mistakes??I'll shortened your learning curve. So, let's talk soon. You deserve to have the knowledge and strategies to get love right this time!

Go to?www.talkwithcoachamy.com. I truly don't know why we haven't spoken yet!

I'm closing my calendar at the end of this month to focus on my clients and the Meet Your Mate This Year coaching group members. I'd love you to be one of them.

Always wishing you the best with life and love,

Coach Amy

PS:?The Meet Your Mate This Year coaching group kicks off on September 28th.?If finding love this year is a top priority for you, let's talk! Visit?www.talkwithcoachamy.com?... or we'll be doing this group coaching experience without you again!