Where To Find A Partner To Love

Dating where you live can be challenging, for some.

5 years ago, I was talking to a friend of mine. She had been on Tinder for much longer than a NY minute. Actually, she'd been on it (and a couple of other dating apps) for a number of years. She was complaining about the men on the apps and was disappointed that she had exhausted all of the ones she was interested in. She had literally run out of all of the men in NYC on Tinder.

I feel for her.

Another woman I know decided to leave New York because she wasn't finding anyone to connect with. She was unhappy with the selection of available men and wanted to try a different city and state. So she moved.

It's not only the women who feel geographically undesirable. Men feel this way, too.

A male friend who's going through a divorce is considering moving to Florida. He hopes to find a kinky woman and create a happy, connected union.

I hope all three find who and what they're looking for.

It seems every few months there's a new study that tells singles where the best and worst cities are to find a partner.

According to NBC News Today, "dating is all about: location, location, location". They believe that where you live makes all of the difference in the world.

My clients have proven this to be untrue.

They don't seem to have challenges meeting, dating and creating relationships after working with me. Living in various cities in both the US and in Canada, many are married or engaged. They are enjoying satisfying relationships.

Kathleen loves the city she grew up in. She wanted to meet a man who currently lived or was open to moving there. During our work together, she met a man on a popular dating app and fell in love. She knew he was the one when she discovered he lived in the same area as her parents. They are engaged and currently renovating a house they bought together in her favored city.

I introduced Maera to the man she left her city, state and country to be with. I attended their beautiful wedding and they've been happily married for over 20 years.

If you're open to love, you can find it anywhere. You can even find it when selling a gardening tool, like Diane. She placed an ad on Craig's List to sell a lawn mower. The man who came to see it asked her out and they married the following year.

I understand why articles such as Jason Lee's,

are so popular. It definitely makes good fodder and moving impacts the economy.

Totally makes sense to me.

Be aware that these are fear tactics and unfortunately they work for many people. It's no different than the famous Newsweek article about the odds of getting married for women over 40. I wrote about it in Hope After 40.

Articles such as these can instill a sense of lack and can encourage you to settle. And if you're like most who've been in a relationship, you know how difficult it can be to end an unhealthy entanglement.

Case in point, Kim Kardashian and Kanye West.

Interestingly, my fabulous city is always rated as one of the worst places to meet a partner.

As a single woman, am I worried? Absolutely not.

I met my husband here and though we're no longer married, we did create an amazing daughter.

There's numerous wonderful men I've met and will continue to meet.

I honestly can't imagine living anywhere else. My choice, my city.

If you're considering relocating to find a partner consider what Thomas à Kempis composed in Latin in the 1400s, "Wherever you go, you take yourself with you".

If you make the decision to move, your surroundings will change and you will feel different.

But...

Will that be enough?

Will you be at a point where you'll be more social?

Will you feel comfortable smiling, flirting and reaching out to potential partners?

Will you feel different enough that you'll be able to do things that you didn't do where you are now?

You are still the same person, no matter where you go.

If you're looking for a solution, if you're ready to implement proven strategies and finally be in the relationship you want, schedule a Strategy Call with me.

Because wherever you go, you take yourself with you.

I want to help you choose wisely and create a happy, loving relationship no matter where you are.

In the meantime, I'll simply pretend I'm 20. According to the Today Show, Where are the eligible guys? The best cities to meet someone in your 20s, 30s and 40s, NYC is ranked #4 as the best city to find love- if you're in your 20's.

Date intentionally wherever you choose to live,

Elizabeth