When You’re Not Feeling “Good Enough”
Brian Ford
Using personal development to fundraise for charity | Self-Improvement Podcaster (20+ million downloads) | Social Impact Leader (Nonprofit founder at For Purpose Foundation)
It’s very likely you’re going to encounter times when you’re not good enough. That’s the truth, and while it might not feel good to hear, it shouldn’t be a concern.
I believe that we’re in a major worthiness crisis. Many people are riddled with self-doubt and low self-confidence because they fall short of the expectations they set for themselves. But not being good enough is okay. In fact it’s inevitable. If you were good at everything then you’d be good at nothing… So what’s most important is how you respond to your feelings of not being good enough.
With all of that in mind, I encourage you to adopt a growth mindset. A growth mindset is a belief that you can improve, that things are not fixed but within your power to change, and any adversity or setback is merely a lesson you need to learn so that you can be better for next time. So instead of taking it personally when you’re not good enough at something, or failed to rise to the occasion, use it as an opportunity to grow by using these three expressions.
“I don’t know how” - It’s likely that you feel like you’re not good enough because you don’t know how to do something. You can learn! Not knowing how is not an issue, that’s easy to fix.
“I need more time” - Some things come naturally to us, and some don’t. But just because something takes longer for you to do doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. With practice you’ll get faster at it, but while you’re learning it you can’t expect to begin at a fast pace.
“I need help” - This is HUGE! Just because you need help with something does not mean you’re not good enough. Everyone needs help and everything is better when people get help. Asking for help is a strength not a weakness, remember that.
You’re supposed to encounter situations where you don’t feel like you’re good enough. It means that you’re doing new things, pushing boundaries, and exploring your own capacities. Life is hard as it is, and through this process you don’t need to add an extra layer of pressure on yourself.
Commit to changing that voice in your head to one that is empowering, supportive, and has your best interest. It will begin to conquer the influence that your weaknesses and inadequacies have over you. Reflect on this - How would the best version of yourself respond to times when you don’t feel like you’re “good enough”?
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