When You’re Failing - Emotions Run High

Got this LinkedIn reply from a field sales rep this morning in response to an InMail campaign I sent to my 1st degree connections. I’m promoting my Gold Call Script-Builder Kit so I sent a message saying, thanks for having a look. This morning I found this reply (Exhibit A). The word, “Dude” immediately drew my ire. I’m neither your “Dude” or your "Bro" - OK?

As I read the note I felt bad for the guy. I’ve seen this type of vinegar response to my campaigns before, thankfully not very often. Some are packed with insults. For instance I get, “Your marketing stinks” - “I’m not fu***ng interested” “Get a real job” “Get lost” etc. LOL

The raunchy verbatim found in these messages are designed to hurt me some way. Destroy my confidence. Make me feel bad. Make me look stupid (like I need any help)?

As I read these lousy responses I wonder why these people even bothered to write me at all. Why not block me on LinkedIn or give me a LinkedIn ‘divorce’ and disconnect? I don’t get it. For example, when you buy a can of soup, and you choose Progresso over Campbells, you don’t write to Campbells to tell them their soup sucks and you bought Progresso instead, do you? NO - you simply pass Campbells by and place Progresso in the shopping cart and walk away. Over and done with.

This person needed to tell me off - clear signal that he’s either failing as a person or as a professional - probably a combination of both. No doubt he’s emotional which is why he took a shot at me in his reply. When salespeople are failing or ’drowning’ in the business, some tend to fight the lifeguard. The idea being - Nothing works so I’m gaining to take you all down with me. Not a good way to go through life.

For most of us, when someone else becomes emotional, we tend to get emotional ourselves. We go on the defensive - it’s human nature. As you can see in this LinkedIn message, this salesperson went on the offensive to attack not only my message, but my product and marketing efforts as well.?Ouch, ouch, and ouch.

Sooo… Rather than go on the defensive myself, which by the way was my first reaction, I decided to ‘call the game’ and ‘fall on the sword’. My bad, my bad, my bad. It just felt better to me. Why should I allow the failing feelings of others affect how I feel. For me, there’s no sense in my allowing negative people to change the way I prefer to see the rest of my day - stress free.

As you can see in my reply I did my best to not come across as being defensive, but to deliver a sense of empathy instead. I’m hoping my reply will cause this fellow to take a look at himself and have a change in attitude for the better. I might add there’s always a chance my sales prospect will catch themselves, and realize their poor manners, and feel a certain degree of obligation to become my customer.

“When under attack - fall back” - Give peace a chance. ?

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