When Your Child Calls You Out on Your Inconsistencies: Leading with Honesty
FRAN FOMAI
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As parents, we often find ourselves in the position of teaching, guiding, and setting examples. But what happens when the tables are turned, and your child calls you out on your own inconsistencies? It’s humbling, right? It’s a moment that demands vulnerability, courage, and the willingness to model accountability.
In a world where perfection is often glorified, it can feel uncomfortable to admit when we fall short. But let’s pause for a moment. Perfection isn’t the goal. Leading with honesty is. When we’re able to acknowledge our mistakes, we teach our children a valuable lesson: that it’s okay to be human, to make mistakes, and to take ownership of our actions.
Affirm to yourself, “I lead with honesty, not perfection.” This simple mantra reminds us that growth happens in the spaces where we are honest about our shortcomings. We show our children that it’s not the mistake that matters, but how we respond to it.
The next time your child calls you out, instead of defending or dismissing, try this: “You’re right—I could have handled that better. Thank you for reminding me.” This not only models accountability but also reinforces the importance of gratitude in relationships.
Brené Brown teaches us that vulnerability is the birthplace of connection, Mel Robbins reminds us that we are in control of our reactions, Robyn Gobel advocates for mental clarity through self-awareness, and Maya Angelou encourages us to always act with integrity. By embracing our imperfections, we give our children permission to do the same, paving the way for a future of authenticity, compassion, and emotional strength.
Let’s stop striving for perfection and start leading with honesty. Model accountability—for yourself, for your children, and for your family. After all, that’s how we grow, together.
If this resonated with you and you’re ready to embrace vulnerability and lead with honesty in your own life, I’d love to connect. Whether you're navigating parenting, relationships, or personal growth, let’s share insights and support each other. Feel free to reach out to me here on LinkedIn—I’m here to walk alongside you as we embrace accountability and authenticity. Let’s grow together! Book time on my calendar to connect: https://franfomai.setmore.com/beta
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1 天前I remember my daughter calling me out that was a complete wake up call. We were arguing about her banking (she was still in highschool and just got her 1st bank account). I said "why didn't you just ____ (whatever it was that we were arguing about)", she said "you didn't teach me how to". I stopped and my facial expression just changed from annoyed to a bit of shock. I was like "Uuuuhhhh, yes you're right I didn't". I apologized, calmly explained what she needed to do, and also thanked her for letting me know.
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5 天前This reminds me of when a parent tries to say, "Do as I say, not as I do". That just doesn't deliver the right message and sends the wrong example, so being able to face being called out is remarkable.
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6 天前I absolutely LOVE this article! I can remember the first time my girls called me out and it truly was a humbling moment, but because I value peace of mind and raising my little ladies to speak their mind, I received their commentary a bit easier and overtime, I came to them asking for their thoughts and opinions. This strengthened our relationship even more.
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6 天前We can learn so much from our children! One time I was driving on the freeway and my daughter was in the back seat. I started yelling at another driver and my daughter quietly said, "mom, you do know I'm the only one who can hear you, don't you?" WoW, that was a wake-up call for!
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6 天前Sis my kids be happy when they can give me a teaching moment. I humbly laugh, learn and we move on happily.