When you should shut your Mouth :-)

Many times I notice that I am interrupted when I am expressing my opinion. It is not that I do not let others talk or want to dominate the discussion. When the discussion is in right direction, I give my approval and contribute where I can. I do voice my opinion when I think the discussion is not in right direction. 

There may be many participants and all may have one point of view...generally that of the Boss. And, if I think it is not correct, I do not mind calling spade a spade!  And that is where you are likely to be interrupted.

My observations:

In Office:

# Every one agrees on one point and you think it is not right. You start giving your logic. They do not agree. Do not push it more. You pointed something that you think is wrong. They may recall it when you were right !

# You  start talking and Boss says "will you let me talk?"..and that is when you better keep your mouth shut.....it does not matter whether you are right or wrong!

# You suggest a flow to the client and more often the client's aggressive employee interrupts with one sided argument and you try to reason why it shall not be done their way and what you suggest with lot of experience is correct. I am sure, more of your arguments will only bring in bad blood. Better shut your mouth and hope to handle it later after they gain confidence in your capability !

# A new employee tries to give you suggestions as to how to improve things. You may have  thought over all those things and implemented many things. Never shunt their opinions/ideas and you shut your mouth. You know 99.99% of those ideas already. Still there is 0.01% which may be worth looking at ! A fresh look always helps!

# You meet a person working with a competitor and you may not like him. Better control your feelings and shut your mouth as he is doing what he is expected to do for his company !  You should not go personal for office related issues! Let Boss handle issues, if any.

Personal life:

# Your friend Does not like you and your ideas: Simple. You did not realize that earlier? Too bad !

# Your friend is frank and has no bias ! He is just like you. Calls spade a spade. Learn to listen and do not think that he is interrupting you. You may be interrupting. Check it out!

#  There is this one person who never agrees with any one. You get irritated and start arguing. It is not worth it ! You are never going to convince him that he is wrong. Forget trying to convince that your point is right !

..I know ..I know ..you must be wondering why I have not talked about spouses ! It is intentional :-)