When You Know, You Know!
Brian Golod, CSPO
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Ten years ago I decided to stop looking for someone to build a family with, I was tired and fed up with all the games people play; I never played any games and wasn't going to start.
It was that same night at midnight when a total random person messaged me saying "you are going to love this girl" — so I asked her to tell me more about why she was special.
She has the same positive energy as you!
I decided to message this supposedly special girl at 1.52 am, told her someone reached out to me, and that I didn't want to live the rest of my life wondering what if I had messaged her.
I didn't know anything about her, where she lived, what she did, nothing, it was all a mystery so I introduced myself and told her where I was born (Argentina), where I lived (Canada)...
I shared where I worked, that I was also building a company on the side, how positive I was, what friends and family mean to me, and that I played soccer and raced gokarts in Toronto.
I told her I believe in G-d, that I have a sister I love to death, and what my work ethic is like, I didn't do this on LinkedIn am now seriously thinking, would that have been wrong?
Some will tell you it's not the right platform for it, others will tell you it doesn't matter — you will never be able to please everyone no matter what... so go ahead, you do you.
Even our friends said we were the cheesiest people they ever met and that's totally fine, when you find the person you can be yourself with it doesn't matter what anyone says.
Back to the story...
She replied as soon as she woke up at 8.32 am and introduced herself in a similar fashion, and whether you believe me or not... I knew with that first message I was going to marry her.
That day was the least productive day of our lives (work wise) as we didn't get much done... the reason is because we wrote back and forth the entire day and waited for each other, too.
That same afternoon we spoke on the phone and I didn't have enough, I wanted to speak again with her... little did we know we would end up passing out on the phone on the floor.
Over the next few days things got intense, her birthday was coming up in March so I came up with the idea to visit her in Miami but give her a month and a half to know me better.
I asked my manager for permission to work remotely from Florida for a week and he said it wasn't a problem... I booked the flight right away, but this special girl couldn't wait that long.
I can't wait until March to meet you
I asked her to come up with an idea then because I had already booked the flight... so she suggested for me to come for Valentine's and if everything worked out she would visit next.
I told her I would come for Valentine's (I booked another flight) and if things worked out I would also come for her birthday as I didn't want her to spend it away from her loved ones.
She appreciated that gesture a lot — sometimes things in life don't need to be even.
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I picked her up in Miami with a dozen roses and on our first hug I knew she was the one; I could feel it, and with every gesture she showed me it was truly a match made in heaven.
Today is ten years since I sent her that email which changed our lives... we dated long distance for two years and got married in Argentina for my grandparents to be able to attend.
We live in Toronto, have a beautiful princess and prince and the cutest dog. I thank my wife for taking a leap of faith and changing her whole life to build a special one together with me.
I'm sharing this because it's a very special day for us and also because maybe someone needs to read an article like this to send an email, make a phone call, or take a flight.
If this inspired at least one person then it was worth writing it... unless you knock on that door it will never open, you already have the no so you may as well try to turn it into a yes.
With regards to our careers something similar happens, lots of professionals hold back and decide not to apply or reach out for help due to fear of rejection and embarrassment.
Take that action, you won't regret it, and don't live your life wondering what if...
What else can we learn from this now that we can look back ten years since we met?
?? Life is totally unpredictable, don't waste your shot
?? Dating long distance is doable when there's trust
?? Don't worry about what anyone says, just go for it
?? Trust your instincts, when you know you know
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3 年This almost made me cry! You, being one of my BIGGEST sources of happiness should ever have to feel this pain.. in my opinion! That being said, I completely understand where you are coming from, why you may feel the way you feel and empathize to an extent. I will say that this aesthetically exceptional in its composition! Life is one big beautiful disaster at times but that’s OK.. we prevail and move on. In the meantime, we absolutely HAVE TO keep our heads up, try to smile through the tears (a smile, even when it faked is a heck of a great source of endorphins - that right there is a good enough reason to try??). And that, my friend, is advice I’m giving based on what you, Particularly here in the very recent past, so kindly gave me time and time again without hesitation. Ultimately a great support system can help you get through some of the most trying times in life and when I say ‘you’ I mean that not specifically but generally, across-the-board, to any and everyone. A good support system, when metaphorically walking through the depths of tragedy, fear, lose and so on can make magic happen…????????
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3 年WONDERFUL ARTICLE!!!.. LOVE IT!??????
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3 年Thanks for sharing!
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3 年Thank you Brian Golod - welcome ??