When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come.

When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come.

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Don’t worry. Be happy.

It sounds catchy, but it’s not great advice.

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When you’re in the midst of a difficult time,

being told “chin up,” “look at the bright side” or “it could be worse” can just make you feel, well, worse.

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Share the difficult truth of your life with the deserving few.

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How are you, really?

“I’m great” is the default response.

It’s what people want to hear.

It’s what we want to be true.

And sometimes it is.

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Yet when we mask the less picture-perfect truth of our lives and curate a fake emotional world,

we cut ourselves off from the very people who could help us carry our burdens better.

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In that place we run the risk of building superficial friendships with counterfeit intimacy.?

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This does not imply that you should go around telling anybody and everybody about all your problems or how bad you feel.

Not everyone deserves your truth.

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Rather, it means sharing with those who have earned the right to know what is weighing you down.

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When my best friend was hospitalized, I felt anxious and overwhelmed.

Just because I understand about countering doubt and?being brave?didn’t make me immune to fear in that moment.

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In fact, during his first few days battling fever, hallucination and confusion, my fears ran amok.

So, I reached out to close friends and family.

My emotion flowed.

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I view myself as a fairly resilient person, but I know my emotional bandwidth is even greater when I’ve let others in to cheer me on.

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The same is true for you.

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Sharing your struggles doesn’t remove them, but it broadens your shoulders to carry them better.

The saying that “a burden shared is a burden halved” holds enormous truth.?

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How are you, really??

It’s OK to say you’re not OK.

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And of course, if you’re still really struggling, have the courage to seek professional help.

Reaching out to those who can help you is not a sign of weakness.

It shows you want to be stronger.

Tony W.

Operations Excellence | Digital Transformation | Commercialization - Business Growth | Innovation | Technopreneur

1 年

excellent sharing Dr bottling up our struggles leads to negative mental health too

Priya Ramachandran

MBA | Client Success and Engagement Partner | Novice Writer (Believes in continuous learning and experience-based contribution)

1 年

Quite relatable. A leader always has added expectations (sometimes unrealistic). Even if things become overwhelming, one ends up portraying everything is fine. Whether it’s a personal loss or a unaccomplished task or a unresolved situation, it is actually important to let people know the real state of mind so that help/guidance or simply a time period can be provided to reassess and move ahead. Thanks for sharing this!

Sean Low

Your Q Branch in Driving Economic Business Growth | CAIEG Professional

1 年

Dr Timothy Low 刘森旺 Usually, i would just tell people how I really feel, things may not be up but i am still ok as long as I am doing something about it. Being real is well important.

Atul Phatak

Experienced business development professional clinical research Phase I to Phase IV.

1 年

Thanks a lot.

Lawrence E. R.

Sr. Manager, Patient Services Quality Assurance - Takeda

1 年

Thank you for this.

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