When You Join Something, Be a Participant—Not an Observer

In today’s hyper-connected world, opportunities to join groups, communities, organizations, and activities are virtually endless. From local clubs and professional associations to online forums and interest groups, people can find like-minded individuals anywhere. Yet, simply joining isn't enough. It’s not about just being present, but about showing up and fully engaging. If you're going to invest your time in something, why settle for merely observing when you can truly participate?

Yes you can learn by observing, but in my case the real learning came from 'doing.' the first business group I ever joined was my local Chamber of Commerce and for a year I Observed. When it came time for self introductions I would duck into the hall or the ladies room and wait until they are over. At one chamber breakfast I was 'busted' and called out. The person who caught me was the chamber exec. She asked me why I never introduced myself at the meetings. I told her that I was afraid of speaking in public and didn't really know how to do a proper introduction. That coupled with the fact that I am by nature an introvert didn't help.

She made some suggestions including asking me about my business. She told me I had a nice way of sharing my story and encouraged me to practice. That moment changed my life.

When I actually took the plunge, and started participating, things changed. I didn't jump in with both feet. I took baby steps. First the introduction, then attending committee meetings. I started participating in other events, volunteering to be a greeter, etc. Then something amazing happened. My business started growing, I started learning, I became a leader (president of that chamber 3 1/2 years later) and the rest... as they say is Herstory.

Participation is the key to unlocking opportunities, fostering growth, and building meaningful connections. Here’s why and how you can move from being a passive observer to an active participant.

The Value of Being a Participant

1. Learning by Doing

Observation has its merits, but active participation takes learning to a new level. When you actively engage, you absorb information, practice skills, and gain hands-on experience. For instance, joining a professional group or workshop and asking questions, contributing ideas, or volunteering for tasks reinforces what you’re learning and allows you to put theory into practice. The act of doing makes learning stick. As the saying goes, "Tell me, and I forget. Teach me, and I may remember. Involve me, and I learn."

2. Building Relationships

Being an observer can leave you feeling isolated, even when surrounded by others. On the other hand, participating encourages collaboration and fosters deeper relationships. Whether it's a business event or a hobbyist group, people notice when you get involved. Asking for advice, offering support, or simply engaging in discussions signals that you're committed, and that builds rapport. Strong relationships formed through participation can open doors to mentorships, partnerships, and even friendships.

3. Contributing to a Greater Purpose

Every group, organization, or community has a mission or a goal. By participating, you become part of that shared vision. Your contributions, no matter how small, help move that mission forward. Whether you're volunteering your time, sharing your ideas, or helping organize an event, you're making a tangible difference. This sense of purpose enhances your connection to the group and provides a sense of fulfillment, knowing that you're part of something larger than yourself.

4. Boosting Personal Growth

Being an active participant often involves stepping out of your comfort zone. When you take on leadership roles, share your ideas, or put yourself in situations that challenge you, personal growth inevitably follows. You'll gain confidence, develop new skills, and build resilience. Over time, these experiences will not only help you grow as an individual but also make you a more valuable asset in any group you’re part of.

Why Do People Stay on the Sidelines?

Despite the benefits of participation, many people remain passive observers. Fear of judgment, a lack of confidence, or uncertainty about their role can hold them back. They might feel they don’t have enough knowledge or experience to contribute meaningfully, or they may be waiting for someone else to take the lead. But here’s the truth: everyone starts somewhere. No one expects perfection or expertise from day one. What matters is your willingness to engage and make an effort.

How to Transition from Observer to Participant

If you’ve found yourself sitting on the sidelines, it’s never too late to change your approach. Here are a few steps to help you shift from being an observer to an active participant:

1. Set Clear Intentions

When you join a group or attend an event, set an intention for how you want to participate. Ask yourself, “What do I want to contribute?” and “How can I make the most of this opportunity?” Having clear goals will motivate you to take action and engage more fully.

2. Start Small

You don’t need to dive in headfirst or take on leadership roles immediately. Begin by participating in discussions, asking questions, or volunteering for smaller tasks. As you build confidence, gradually increase your level of involvement.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Fear of making mistakes often keeps people from participating. But remember, no one expects perfection. Failure is part of the learning process, and most people are more forgiving than you think. What’s important is that you’re showing up and making an effort.

4. Ask for Feedback

If you're unsure about how to contribute, ask for guidance. Seek feedback from more experienced members, or offer to help in areas where support is needed. This will help you find your place and ensure your contributions are meaningful.

5. Be Consistent

Participation isn’t a one-time event—it’s a habit. Make it a point to consistently engage in activities, contribute ideas, and offer support. The more you show up, the more comfortable and confident you’ll become.

In the end, joining something is just the first step. To truly gain the benefits of being part of a group or organization, you need to participate actively. By contributing your time, energy, and ideas, you not only enhance your own experience but also add value to the group as a whole. So, the next time you join something, don't just be an observer—be a participant. Your business, relationships, and sense of purpose will flourish as a result.