When you get thrown out of a Facebook Group and blocked...

Ok, for some of you it might be a regular occurrence! Like, the more successful that you get the more haters you get! Or maybe you are a rebel and often flount the rules!

For me, though, last week was the first time. It had never happened before, I was thrown out and blocked with no prior warning, straight onto my ear! I have to tell you I went through a whole range of emotions when I realised!

It was a free group and I'm in the paid membership. So, why did it actually matter?

We naturally want to be liked and accepted. I'd been in the group since it's beginning, a paid client and an affiliate marketer for the owner of the group. To be fair it was an admin who had unceremoniously turfed me out.

I only discovered my eviction when I had popped back to see if there was any comments on my post. When I couldn't access the group I thought my phone was having a wobble or Facebook was on one of it's glitches.

Sadly not! I'd been evicted without me knowing it. So about these emotions...

Well I ran from feeling sad, annoyed, angry, disappointed, hurt, guilty, ashamed, frustrated, confused and probably a few others in between.

Are you thinking what the hell did you post? Were you spammy? A sales post?

Actually, it was a story post with no CTA, no promotion, no question, not an engagement post. To be honest, the reason and power of writing story posts the week previous had only really sunk in and I wanted to practice and see what happens.

Eventually, I messaged an admin and the owner of the group, thinking that it must be a mistake and all would be well. The reply shocked me hence another gamut of emotions raced through my being.

It was a specific topic Facebook Group and I apparently had been messaged several times, which actually wasn't true. I'd been politely asked in the paid group not to post something some six months earlier and never did again.

To be honest, I knew the rules had changed but I'd forgotten exactly what they were and thought my story post would be ok. It wasn't promo, sales, spammy etc. I also have to admit that for a minuscule nano-second before I hit send a quiet tiny inner voice had muttered something about not posting!

Did I listen to that small quiet voice within aka intuition? No! I only thought afterwards when the whatsit hit the fan 'oh God, I should have listened and then I wouldn't have found myself in trouble'!

I'm way better at heeding my intuition these days, but clearly I can also get caught of guard too!

You see, I'm not a d*ck, I'm human and humans make mistakes. And sometimes they ignore their intuition too! In general I try and follow rules and guidelines, don't most of us? Ok, well maybe not, just me?

So, how did it all end? Well, after a few messages I think the admin and the owner of the group had a conflab and decided to allow me back in! I received an apology from the admin but nothing from the owner of the group. Remember, I said I was a client and an affillitate marketer for this business owner? Feel free to remind me in the future when I'm super successful to treat clients with a little more respect.

And what did I learn from this experience and what is the point of my story?

I could have just moved on and ignored it and put it down to experience. But, in fact I lost a whole day stressed, anxious and whirring thoughts bringing my mood right down. As a business buddy pointed out, I'd probably outgrown the group (I wasn't gaining anything from it). Another friend said I was upper-limiting as Gay Henricks explains in the Big Leap.

It made lots of sense and sounded rather exciting.

But is there still something to glean from the whole drama!

Well, yes, firstly it was definitely akin to the drama triangle which I often talk to clients about and I was definitely revolving around that drama triangle that is always stressful and related to unhealthy or dysfunctional relationships.

Secondly, I had felt disrespected and was operating from a victim role, but attempting to resolve the issue saw me take back my power and moving away from that victim role, something I struggle with.

Thirdly, although a minuscule nano-second of intuition had tried to guide me away from posting and I had ignored that flash of guidance. Note to self - don't ignore your intuition, it is so damn powerful and has the ability to keep me out of trouble as well as move me towards my goals and dreams if I only I will listen!

Fourthly, I was WAY out of alignment! When? The moment I didn't listen to my intuition and all day when I was stressing about the whole drama!

Have I got over the trauma now? Yes! Am I bovvered? No!

Have I forgiven said people?

To be honest, there's actually nothing to forgive now that I have processed and worked through my own feelings and emotions as well as reflected.

And more to the point, now that I'm back in alignment whatever happened is now 'water under the bridge'.

Will I make mistakes again with posting in groups? Sure! Not intentionally though, I'm not that kind of gal, however I am certainly human!

So, go on, tell me have you been evicted from a Facebook Group and thrown out on your ear?

Did it bother you?

Or were you like 'whatever'!?