When you don't get the text you want- how do you CREATE vs. React?
How do you anchor in your inner queen, creating from limitless essence vs. an inner teen trying to get something from lack? It's subtler than you may think.
Let's start with this quote* I just heard to boost our empowered potential instead of old programming raining on our parade!
"With your desire defined, quietly go within and shut the door behind you. Lose yourself in your desire; feel yourself to be one with it; remain in this fixation until you have absorbed the optimal possible future life and name it/declare it so by claiming and feeling yourself to be and to have that which you desired.” ―?Neville Goddard
Even though I already have practices like this, the old programming is tenacious. I see evidence (with myself and clients) for when I/we fall into the false stories like "not smart enough" or old stories (all the way down buried in the pysche's basement ) such as "unlovable"-- that have our persona pattern parts kick in to avoid that pain.
So we please, perform, defend, deny, try harder. Even when we think we're going for positive best or being enlightened, Ha! This inner programming residue stuff is sticky and sneaky! I also have real life recent evidence for when I /we are anchored in our inner sovereignty-- creating results with people and projects that have us laughing, dancing and grateful. Example- Someone did not follow up with a text in the way "Mia" wanted after a first date. At first she thought, Well, I deserve to be treated like queen. Game over, move on. Through more sensitive awareness and willingness to look at what was underneath that... it became clear that this "she deserves" part was not the fully secure inner essence or the liberated, mature, embodied queen. It was still a reactive "plastic sword" inner protector part "demanding" she be treated like a queen- trying to protect a wounded little one with an ancient false story of unwanted. I've called this an inner teen in a queen costume. When Mia was able to anchor in the Truth of her Infinite SELF sovereignty... then there was nothing to expect or demand. This is why we like to say "When I remember I am the water, I can't be thirsty." Game changer inside, yah? It shifts into a calmer knowing... and then "Desire defined" flows as an inspiring invitation to others. Game changer outside. Ta daaa. :-)
In speaking to first date person, her words were great, but the energy underneath was probably still in disappointment and complaint. Like dogs sniff fear, this is louder than the most awesome no-blame conscious communication workshop script. :-) Her energy calls in what is a match to the "frequency." Science basics- energy attracts and reacts to like energy. We are the source of creating and being able to be in response-agility with what shows up. Within hours of Mia getting clear about being a queen, (energy, authentic identity, not just attitude) -- it was amazing to see how the phone literally rang, with two other gentleman extremely interested, demonstrating communication like a king honoring a queen.
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And with clarifying, non-judging curiosity & compassion conversations- there's even a second date with the first person. Now Mia can be this authentic queen (in Jedi mastery training) with discernment, learning, growing, practicing awareness-response-agility-choice, over and over, checking in with what energy is she really coming from. Which inner board of directors part has grabbed the wheel again and how may she pause, re-source and choose to create from Desire not demand? Consider these powerful differences for yourself: React= Recycling Energy About Conditioned Triggers/Childhood Trauma/ Controlled Trying. CREATE= Consciously Realizing Embodied Actions from True Essence. Ooooh, now we're really dancing with destiny, hmm? This applies to all areas of life. The same dynamic applied to a senior executive's reacting/ creating in a different kind of courtship with private equity players, etc.
So, I hope this has at least stirred up some good food for thought in you. May you know your true worth and be willing to dig deeper to find it, rather than pep talk wallpaper on top that doesn't really work. I am so grateful for this inner alchemy - outer abundance adventure! I'd love to hear what this might inspire in you. Cheers!
*Thanks for introducing me to this quote-Katherine Woodward Thomas