? When Waiting for Happiness Becomes the Norm ??

When was the last time you told yourself “all I have to do is hang on until the next break”, “I’ll get it together during the holiday”, or “I’ll rest and recharge during my next time off.” Seriously think about it.

?? The Waiting Game ??

How often do we condition ourselves to accept the unacceptable? We concentrate on the idea that the time to focus on ourselves finally is coming. We call it vacation/holiday time. But when the time comes, what happens then? Nothing! That’s precious time we couldn’t wait for, that time that was like the light at the end of the tunnel, we use it to do nothing.

? Reality Check ?

But is that recharging? Is that really helping your set of minds, making you feel good? How is that taking advantage of the present moment? We either evolve or regress, go forward or backward, live or perish.

?? A Moment of Reflection ??

So, ask yourself if setting yourself to experience nothingness as a goal is in your best interest. Think about it. Think about what happens next. We go back to our usual activities. Back to the grind. Stuck in an insane routine. Experiencing day in and day out the same reality that we can’t bear, with no perspective.

?? The Light Bulb Moment ??

But we keep pushing. We convince ourselves that all you have to do is hang on for the next break, the next holiday period where nothingness awaits. We choose to live in a world of pretend, but does it help us escape that reality?

?? Seize the Present ??

Look at the present as a gift, a chance, an opportunity. It’s up to you to unwrap that gift and see what it gives. Start envisioning a better life, a reality where you have the energy to do things, a reality where you experience joy and feel great. Get out there and create another reality.

?? No More Excuses ??

Right now, you might be going for the “I have kids” excuse. Well, don’t. Don’t even go there. No kids on earth want to see their parents miserable, sad, dissatisfied, and depressed.

?? Dream and Do ??

Change your approach to your time off. Stop numbing your feelings. Reactivate your ability to dream and desire. Bet on yourself. Convince yourself that feeling satisfied and experiencing joy is possible.

Here are some steps to help you change the situation you’re in right now:

?? Allocate some "Me Time" ??

Instead of waiting for a break to recharge, give yourself a moment to yourself every day, even just 15 minutes, to dance like no one is watching, listen to your favorite song while having a cup of tea, go out for a walk focusing on nature’s melody. Make that “me time” non-negotiable.

?? Reframe Your Breaks ??

Instead of seeing it as a chance to escape life, take it as a chance to engage fully with it. What do you miss doing? What have you always wanted to try?

? Reactivate Your Ability to Dream ?

What if dreaming were a muscle? Every day take time to dream, to create your vision. Use a notebook to sketch it out, regardless of the size of those dreams.

?? Take Action ??

Pick one dream, one desire you keep putting off. Write it down, and across from it, write down one action you can take within 24 hours.

I want you to love yourself enough to be your own savior. Pick at least one of those steps and start using it right now.

With love and care,

Maty x