When users become abusers

The world youth alliance says child abuse starts with the use of porn!

When users become abusers - World Youth Alliance (wya.net)

Experiencing cravings to view porn. Much like substance users report feeling strong urges to use drugs, porn addicts can experience strong urges to view porn. Becoming angry, hostile, or irritable when asked to stop using porn. Porn addicts may deny their porn viewing or be upset when loved one's request that they stop. Users become deceitful and sneaky in their behaviours and make excuses, justifying their behaviour with statements like "what man doesn't watch porn?" As counsellor and a therapist, I can answer that question "many men do not watch porn" a lot of men after getting married or settling down into a long-term relationship, perhaps having children, stop some of the poor behaviours they were introduced to as a teen by other males for example; drinking to excess, gambling, partying, and not looking after themselves to name just a few. In the realm of behavioural addictions, the insidious grip of porn addiction often eludes understanding and perpetuates stigma, making its detection and resolution challenging. While debates persist about its classification, the repercussions extend far beyond individual struggles, impacting relationships and society profoundly. One of the most alarming consequences is the distressing link between porn consumption and the dehumanisation of women, fuelling a disturbing surge in domestic violence.

Porn addiction's subtle erosion of intimacy and relational dynamics is evident in its capacity to distort perceptions of sexual encounters. As individuals indulge in pornography, they develop unrealistic expectations of intimacy and physical appearance, reducing partners to mere objects of desire. This objectification not only corrodes the foundations of healthy relationships but also fosters a culture rife with violence and exploitation.

Moreover, the escalation of porn addiction frequently intertwines with substance abuse, exacerbating the vicious cycle of harm and impeding recovery efforts. Individuals may resort to drugs or alcohol in pursuit of heightened stimulation, further compromising their mental and emotional well-being and jeopardising societal norms.

Recognising the pervasive impact of porn addiction necessitates addressing its root causes and providing comprehensive support for recovery. Beyond individual counselling, societal awareness and intervention are imperative to counter the normalisation of pornographic content and its detrimental effects on relationships and gender dynamics.

In confronting porn addiction, we confront not only personal struggles but also broader societal issues of gender inequality and violence against women. By fostering open dialogue, promoting empathy, and advocating for healthier portrayals of intimacy and sexuality, we can strive towards creating a safer, more equitable world for all. Let us embrace this conversation with courage and compassion, knowing that our collective efforts can pave the way for positive change and healing across individuals, families, and communities.

The distressing nexus between porn addiction, child abuse, and domestic violence underscores the urgent need for action. In today's digital age, pornography's pervasive presence not only infiltrates online platforms but also infiltrates our minds, reshaping perceptions and attitudes towards sexuality and relationships. Research reveals that pornography addiction alters brain activity akin to drug addiction, leading users to view women as objects rather than humans.

Tragically, addiction to porn often desensitises individuals, leading to a desire for increasingly deviant forms of pornography to fulfil their sexual desires. This desensitisation not only distorts reality but also increases the likelihood of users stumbling upon violent or child pornography. Shockingly, over 30% of searches on certain online networks are related to child sexual abuse, highlighting the alarming prevalence of this heinous crime. Men can become predatory, obsessed, and unpredictable. They can become dangerous to the loved one around them, they lose their ability to self-manage.

The normalisation of pornographic content perpetuates a cycle of exploitation and abuse, validating and normalising sexual violence against women and children. Treating women and children as mere objects strips them of their human dignity and violates their inherent rights. It is imperative that we confront the root causes of this exploitation, challenging societal mindsets that justify the abuse of vulnerable individuals.

By fostering awareness, promoting empathy, and advocating for stricter regulations on pornographic content, we can strive towards creating a society that respects the dignity and rights of all individuals, irrespective of gender or age. Let us stand united in our commitment to combatting porn addiction and its devastating consequences, ensuring a safer and more equitable future for generations to come.

On average, children are first exposed to porn at the age of 11, often encountering it in the school playground. However, this trend is shifting, with more instances occurring due to lax parental controls at home. In many cases, children stumble upon pornographic content while using their father's phone or laptop, often discovering it through the browsing history.

Signs I see in my practice of "PORN BREAKDOWN"

Breaks Trust

Secrecy/Sneaky

Lack of intimacy or interest in their partner

Unrealistic expectations in the bedroom

Decreased self-esteem not feeling good enough.

Not spending time with the family

Irritability and anger

Criticism

Infidelity

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