When things don't feel right - the typically aren't
Lisa Coletta
M.Mgt, AGIA, ACIS, GAICD, Cert EDC ??Corporate Governance Specialist??Consultant, Coach, Board and Executive Advisor??The Governance Collective - Australasia’s Leading Edge Behavioural Governance Specialists??
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Do you ever find yourself reacting to someone in a way that you can't quite name?
What is it about them that really pushes your buttons and why is it that they don't react to your reaction?
In my experience, the more we get to know and like ourselves, the more we learn about and know when and why we are getting emotionally triggered and how to respond and not react.
As a leader, this can be especially hard if the person you are sensitive around also happens to be one of your employees because there can be an expectation of leaders needing to maintain a level of ''calm resoluteness'' that may not be easily attainable or maintainable in those moments.
What can also be challenging is when we accumulate negative angst and perceptions of others because we are triggered, we can run the risk of unfairly apply judgement and misdirect our own feelings during performance appraisals and other key discussions where we are required to provide constructive professional useful feedback.
When we do this, ideally, we are assessing the application of the company behaviours, their delivery of outcomes against their performance plan goals and their role description.
Not sure if you are feeling triggered? Consider this list of the physical responses you may be experiencing:
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If you are being triggered, consider these tips:
The key with triggers is to recognise and name them so that we are aware and ready to respond and not react when they arise.
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2 年This one is a game changer, once we understand Carl Jung. Our shadows are powerful. Thanks Lisa Coletta - Corporate Governance Change Leader
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2 年I always seemed to trigger a certain type of employee who saw me as a negative father figure of some sort. Only after transparent conversations are we ever able to move forward.
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2 年Love this post Lisa! So true we need to hold up our accountability mirror when we are feeling triggered by outside influences. "What am I making this to mean about me?" or another question I personally use when this takes place is "What about this person is triggering something in me that reminds me of _____?" Many times, I found the person triggering me reminded me of one person - my mother. With that I was able to do a deeper dive into my own unresolved emotions to reduce my negative feelings about HER and then reduced my reactions to others when they exhibited similar characteristics. Lastly, with my own coaching clients, I share with them the truth of, "We often don't like in others what we don't like in ourselves." Boom! No shortage of triggers these days! LOL! Thanks for posting this!