When some people hate you...

We all know it is not possible to feed the world and likewise not possible to please all people. Unfortunately some people think the first is fools paradise while the latter is their goal in life ! I have never been able to fathom why would anybody even think it is humanly possible to impress every mind we meet ? Like cells circulate, are born, die and new ones regenerate, we build new relationships, some HAVE TO die for new ones to be born. It is called nature. It is natural, but also remember - those that died - we dint hate. We had to survive and therefore they had to go. What is good is what is kept. Rest is flushed off in toilet bowls or has to be sweated out. Same way what are bad people and bad relationships or bad influences once clearly established - are best deleted with immediate effect or you are going to have to work up a real sweat to get them to go on their own accord. In the case of the latter it will happen only when they are disgusted with you which means you will be compelled to find a new low for yourself. Why ?

There are so many who really want to be loved and charm everyone. Who think life is a mass campaign and they will be Mr and Miss Universe who will dorn that crown - And then what ...be a brand ambassador for a watch, hold an impoverished child and wash hands with antiseptic or click pictures with the who- is- who to stay on page 3 till the crown stays and be passed on to whoever signed up for the 1 year of arch lights ? The popularity contest is everywhere as so are its contestants. We meet them in the communities we live in,  at the workplace and in families too. It is not uncommon to see people seriously undo their core to be someone else just for that one vote which matters in the moment. And that also swings against them another day. So really how does it matter may i ask if this is going to be a forever "Feed me monkey on your back " everyday ?

There is a lot of respect for people who are realistic, practical and mature although they may be less popular. One part of maturity is to know that only your own kind will respect and value you which automatically reduces the size of the graph. So if you aim to gain the favors and the appreciation of one unlike you , you have to morph into being like them to impress them . Again brings me to another question - so how many people does one have to be to garner a Thumbs up from all those one bumps into in life ? We have 2 options - Laugh or Cry at that number. Wise ones will shrug the thought and just be who they are and be happy - be truly delighted with the few they meet, who connect, share wave length, similar IQ and just relate at any level. Levels at which we relate to people could vary from intelligence, to social consciousness, to values, to sentiments to skills and even humor. And why not ? That is the way of the world. We were meant to connect with people for different reasons and know it too. Just that most dont have the time to ponder - why do i connect with X ? And with that knowledge now seek them when the time beckons the other's best.

Not everyone has the gall to be okay with a few that know them in and out and can vouch for their being who they are, because in many cases people want a whole bunch of people to pledge their love and support for their name and last. So when you do find people who don't like you and you truly want to get over this viscous habit of wanting to be liked by all and sundry....ask yourself why is that they despise you ? If it is lack of confidence then in most cases you asked for it by being too needy or being too available for all tantrums. If it is for being unskilled - it is rather okay because you are not expected to be a master of all unless what you are hired for is what you are unable to deliver. If it is because you are popular , you ought to be the last one to be bothered about this one digit, because it really does not matter. Like a watched pot never boils, a jealous soul wont turn into Mother Teresa either. If it is because you are super competent then sit back - enjoy a drink, shake a leg because it is actually a moment you ought to celebrate. There are not many who are an embodiment of many skills and presence too. And you need to be both to bother someone enough to hate you. Why should being super good ever be a problem spoke, in your career wheel ? If they hate your guts, it is their inability to be you - unless your guts are all around the place making a mess. If they detest you because of what they hear or what gossip carried - they flip flop in how they feel about you - remember the weather ? You hated it when it went bad dint you ? And loved it instantly when it got better - either be that way or demand fair weather conditions at all times in your teritiory. If it is because you are playing camps and politics then well - it is no surprise the cheese has turned bitter. The world sooner or later will call a spade a spade and really this is the only time sitting at a bar, worrying - ever counts. 

When you are very good, when you are splendid, when you think like you are  a 100 years ahead of the rest, when your mind is a creative haven, when your charisma is undeniable, when you are potent just standing alone, when you exude the smell of power without any position - please know - there will be a world of people ready to Hate you. Take it on with a smile. Dust it off like a cowboy. You have places to go and miles before you sleep. Turn off their noise and put them to rest. Your happy place is in just being you and if that disturbs anybody, it is NOT our problem. Allow them the luxury of dealing with it. Holding Guilt of not being liked by all is as stupid as Guilt over why all our ancestors died. Liberate your mind and find your road. Your destiny awaits you - minus of negative load.