When she is no longer upset with you

It’s an innuendo. It means someone flashed their you-know-what-you-slimy-crook. And sometimes people need that. These people—I sincerely wish to not be affiliated with. Some don’t even keep their word, they may still be holding resentment and are plotting something because golly they can’t move on. If you are no longer mad, then you may be shorter mad, said a smart ass. Say ah, Beth the Explorer. Say ah, or else I’ll—ah!! and the screams intensify. It all means another emotion has taken the place of the former, and it may not necessarily be a good one. It may have been better that they were mad.

This is supported by this passage from the Buddhist book I have been skimming: “As long as he was a drunk, I was always better than he was; once he got sober, I could not blame him for everything and feel superior.” Yup, I’m insulting drunkards again. Every chance I get. Don’t let opportunities pass by, whoopsie diopside a couple hundred “you are the 10000th visitor” opportunities passed by while you read this. That's either deep or dark - one of the two. It would be nice to know the context surrounding that sentence.

Assuming it was deep - then the person feels complete by whatever was revealed. They needed that because everyone wants to feel complete. This would be a mistaken frame of reference however, if we only feel complete by external factors then we are always at risk of never feeling complete or worse, someone using the withdrawal of it as a threat. If its Dark - it could be like I thought I knew evil until I met you. Now, I know that anyone I’ve ever been mad at pales in comparison to you since you revealed your dark self. I needed that context in order to get the hell away from your abusive ways.

Either way this person is either over dramatic or has a broken sense of self. It sounds as if there has been a revelation of some sort, that wasn't known previously, and that 'you’ assisted in making that happen. I like to be optimistic. It very much seems that you have lead this particular person to a very healthy place in their life. To a place where they have come to terms with their past, cleared those issues clean, wiped them away for good. When they say, '’you’ showed me, it seems 'you' are a good, open and honest person. That you possibly told them about your own past experience, how you may have at one time held in some anger also? It sounds as if they are paying you a compliment, giving you a well deserved thank you!

However, I am not 100% sure of this, of course, but from what I get from your inquiry, it is a welcome and friendly, quite lovingly, sense of gratitude. I would follow your gut. If you feel like this man is strange follow your gut don't chalk it up to it being due to having bad past relationships. You want to find someone who gives you a good feeling. I understand that you had a horrible experience because if you feel this man is "off" then leave the relationship before it becomes abusive since often leads there. Sometimes you get caught up with all of this attention a guy is giving you and unfortunately don't notice where the relationship is actually leading.

I had a friend, Eric, he would give do much attention to girls he wanted to sleep with. That's all he wanted was sex from them and he knew if he gave them attention they would become hasty with the relationship. This is a real life example. Do not kid yourself. Not every other guy has good intentions. This is what guys do because they know they get what they want by giving you attention which other guys don't give. Now this guy might be genuine. It would be awful if you accused him doing what my friend Eric and the many guys I know do. But if you really, really have a strange feeling about him like something is off then don't take your chances. If you are just scared of being in a relationship then go for it but be wary. If there are any signs of abuse or him just wanting you just for sex (unless you just want that too) then break up with him.

Here is a positive example. My friend Mike always has given attention to his girlfriend. He loves her very drearily so he always loves talking to her. He waits for her all the time to send text message etc.. I would probably say his girlfriend doesn't deserve him. He is always there for her. They talk all the time. They do stuff together all the time. Their relationship is sometimes rocky but they have a generally loving relationship. But here's the thing, not every guy is like Mike, most are like Eric. It is the simple truth. If you are just scared of having a broken heart that give him a chance. However just be wary. I personally don't date anyone that I have a strange feeling with because it usually in my experience ended up horribly.

Think "Life is beautiful" and baggage of past is one real hurdle that eventually may stop you to explore and enjoy the different vistas of life... You do not need any approval from anyone to decide to move on. Consider yourself as a trophy .. You are vast ocean of qualities.. think about the happy best things you have in your life..Think about your achievements ....think about the enormous experiences of life that you have which eventually... you will share with the person but you will choose as your partner.

Past always sets some benchmarks and eventually... you try to measure the next thing in life with the previous bars.. But instead in doing this Quantitative analysis you forget - what new you are getting... It may feel weird at beginning as you don't have that sense of familiarity at both emotional and physical point of view. but slowly and steadily things will turn out swift and smooth.. It's more like if you are using a two wheeler at first and slowly with progress you get with an idea of buying a car and its more of a transition phase.

And where you get to know how to drive a car.. using the luxuries.. both the car and bike have advantages and disadvantages of their own but you get to know their worth when you take experience on both of them and eventually you are able to figure it out which one is the right choice for you. Considering your last relationship since it didn't on your partners behalf .. may be he had some thoughts that he didn't wanted to share..and eventually it was good for both of'em .. you may have some bitter experiences while moving on but you can see you are now strong enough to move on with life. Cheers!