When Our Anxiety Is Our Inner Self Seeking Reassurance

Sometimes we feel anxious but we’re not quite sure why.

We walk around in a state of low-grade anxiety, feeling like something’s wrong or off but we just can’t put our finger on it.

And often this uncertainty around our anxiety creates...well, more anxiety.

We can use our mindfulness and awareness techniques to notice the anxiety, describe the anxiety, allow the anxiety, not make anxiety a problem so we don’t feel compelled to resist the anxiety…

But sometimes we feel mentally, physically, emotionally drained and numbing our anxiety becomes the attractive choice so we don’t have to feel the discomfort of the pervasive anxiousness in our bodies.

I brought this to my own coach and was blown away by what she said.

What if the anxiety was a signal from our inner self that there were questions that needed to be answered?

What if the questions were from our inner child seeking reassurance?

When we ignore the questions, we ignore the part of us that remembers the past and is still worried and afraid. And that part often shows up as anxiety and resistance.

We’re often anxious when we feel like we have too many open loops -- too many unanswered questions.

When we answer the questions from the deepest part of ourselves, we close loops.

We may have to answer the same question over and over until our body no longer feels the need to ask it.

That's the power of compassion work. That's the power of unconditional love and support.

So:

Innerself: Am I really enough?

Me: Yes, I am 100% enough, exactly as I am. I’m proud of who I am and who I’m becoming.

Innerself: Can I really do this?

Me: Yes, I absolutely can. I’m already doing this.

Innerself: Will you really have my back no matter what?

Me: Yes. I have my back, no matter what. It’s safe to move forward because I'm no longer my harshest critic. I'm my biggest inner ally.

Innerself: What if it doesn’t work out?

Me: I can handle it. And I can choose what to do next. I will never give up on myself.

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What questions can you answer to close some of the open loops in your body?

How can you reassure your inner self?

This is the type of work I do with my own 1:1 coaching clients. If this is work you’d like to do, visit KariWatterson.com to learn more. If you've never experienced coaching before, sign up for a free 90-minute coaching call.

Inner work is the most important work.