When the opinion of other people becomes important in life!

The greatest prison people live in in life, is the fear of other people’s opinion. There are two distinct events. People’s opinion on a business-related/news-related topic and people’s opinion on you as a person. When it comes down to a public debate, a three way-calling, a conference call, other’s opinions are very important to find solutions to a problem in general. In both cases, people have the right to their opinion and you have the right to ignore that opinion.

However, when it comes down to their opinion on your personality, i.e. the way you are, the way you act? Then no, other people’s opinion doesn’t matter. I present to you my theory. If you don’t agree, I respect you, we’ll just have to agree to disagree. I can live with that happily. Objectively, this probably isn't entirely true. Subjectively, however, it is. From where you're standing, does everyone else seem stupid? That's because from where you're standing, they are. Always remember that the best way to get something done is to do it yourself, and that everyone else is just a joker.

Do you like yourself and that’s how it should be. You are the only best person who has to live with you. You are the only person whose behaviour helps or destroys your reputation. Whether you do good or bad, people will always have something negative to say about you and that is life after all. What will people say is it important to think about it? If you ask me then I will surely say no because is that people who are judging you today going to come tomorrow in future if you are in trouble and save you that is absolutely a big no.

Therefore, why should we think about what people will say we should live the life for ourselves, not for others if at all you want to know that whether you are doing good or not you should compare that thing with you and only with you not with others because that person with whom you are comparing yourself is not the same as you are. Your likes may be different from the person you are comparing, so it does not make any sense because everyone's way of living is different and the results are also different.

And the fact is that if you are doing something for yourselves and doing the same thing for others the results will be completely different because when you do something for yourselves then the level of determination will be different and the same thing when you will do it for others again the determination level will be different.

Also one of the biggest examples being an Indian I can tell how people criticize the children of famous personalities or well-educated parents is by just saying see how well your parents are settled in there life and see what you are doing you are a big failure to them. What is the easiest and most difficult thing in life? the answer is mistakes easy to judge when others do it and difficult to realize when we do it.

Therefore instead of doing what others will like we should start doing what we love because one or the other day the person for whom you are doing all this thing is going to be upset with you and you will regret saying that instead of this if I would have done what I loved then I might be more successful than this in my life.

Of course no one knows why you are the way you are, or why you act the way you do, and when people pass value judgments, they're just that. No one knows how happy doing something makes you, or if you do something because of some childhood trauma, if your dreams drive you, or if you're just weird and like to be weird. They don't know you. You know you.

And you have no obligation to hold on to anything that doesn't serve you well. Because it is your life, and if something doesn't serve you, you're entitled to let it go. And that includes what other people think of you. If other peoples' judgement is bringing you down, ignore it. Only hold onto things that nourish you and feed you and make you feel good. Other people can make their choices.

But do you really need other people to validate you? Too often, we look outward for validation that we are enough and that we're doing a good job at existing. But, as I've said, other people are stupid when they judge you. However, if the subject is not you, I think you should learn to be open minded and respectful to people’s opinions, even when you don’t agree with them. Cheers!