When one forgives two are healed

Once you forgive, you are letting go of a burden. You will feel much lighter as though a boulder has been lifted from your shoulder. When we are in a playback mode if someone has done something unfair to us, we keep reliving that moment and incident and actually are torturing our mind, body and soul. The minute the person in question comes to our mind , our body cringes..how much of damage are we doing to ourselves, we don't even realize. The other person who has done the damage , is not getting affected..so when we decide to forgive and let go ..the healing begins..we heal our soul…it's about time humanity begins this process.

Does forgiveness heal? If I am forgiving someone who wronged me (you know who you are) I am healed and know in my heart that I have forgiven them. It doesn’t mean I need to like them, or love them or even have anything to do with them. It doesn’t mean I need to verbally tell them they are forgiven. At age 64, I am not interested in spending time and energy with mean people. I surround myself with loving connections in people and activities. There are two relatives of mine who always tried to find faults in our deeds and keep criticising us regularly in our family circles. Have I forgiven these two? Yes. I wish them the best but no longer trust them with my heart.

The forgiver has been hurt and I'd probably say on a personal level rather than material. All kinds of raw emotion almost take over your day to day life to a point which almost cripples you, in fact it can destroy the person that you think you are. To be able to start the healing process you need to be able to accept what has happened, with acceptance comes a degree of calm and understanding. With my own situation as soon as I became more level headed I was able to look at things from a much calmer perspective which helped a great deal with coping with the pain.

When you start to own the pain rather than letting it own you, you soon realise that letting go of the pain and forgiving the person/people who have hurt you also gives you a slight lift in spirit, which can only be a good thing right. So I say Forgive but don't forget….learn something from the ordeal to help you grow as a person….never hold a grudge because it will stop you living your life and being able to enjoy tomorrow, life is to precious and to short. Forgiveness…not always easy but so very necessary.

Pack a huge suitcase and fill it with clothes and spend the day with it. After a while you begin to realize just how heavy the suitcase is and how holding on to it is keeping your one arm busy all the time. You realize holding the suitcase is keeping you from doing things you would like to be doing. It’s just there all the time and even after you start to become used to it you still can’t quite make it feel comfortable. Your entire day is just hard because you have this thing attached to you and you can’t help but think about it. Carrying it making your day drag on and is effecting everything you do.

Then when you finally get home leave the suitcase at the door. You can still kind of feel it in your hand even though it’s not and you realize everything is so much easier. You actually feel lighter and yes there is a sense of ease that comes over you knowing it’s gone. You start to think how much easier tomorrow is going to be because you have no intention of picking that suitcase up on the way out. In fact your thinking of just putting it out of sight tomorrow or maybe you will just let it go completely and give it to Goodwill. Yes, tomorrow is going to be so much better and you think by the end of the week you will wonder why you didn’t put it down sooner. Forgiveness feels like that. Cheers!